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Creativity To Heal and Empower; Morgan Beard

Creativity To Heal and Empower; Morgan Beard

December 15, 2021

Morgan Beard has dedicated her life to using creativity to heal and empower. She received her BA in Visual and Media Studies from Duke University in 2012 and her MPS in Art Therapy from the School of Visual Arts in New York City in 2017. As an art therapist in New York, she worked in a public elementary school, an adult inpatient psychiatric unit, and a 183-bed nursing home before her life came to a screeching halt as a result of a personal burnout.

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Most Influential Person

  • I met a woman who worked out of the same office building where I worked. She was a super spunky British woman and she was passionate about TM (Transcendental Meditation). She is still in my life today.

Effect on Emotions

  • Mindfulness makes my emotions feel more tangible and tolerable. It makes me feel like I can go through life with them, even though I don't like them.
  • It just gives them an added layer of muscle or strength.

Thoughts on Breathing

  • I use breathing a lot with my clients. I use it when I'm ramping up to a meditation or a visualization that I guide them through. I usually do that spontaneously.
  • Breathing is one of the most powerful tools for getting someone to turn the volume down on what's happening outside of them and to transition into experiencing what's happening inside of them.
  • I usually have these dual anchors. One is, feel the solidness of the earth underneath you. It's this totally stable, unmoving force under us which is comfortable and grounding for people.
  • Secondly, tune into the breath, which is this continually flowing and changing thing. If you can keep one foot in one and one foot in the other, you can balance life. Some things are very secure and slow moving and some things are constantly changing.
  • If you can find footing with both of those forces then you've really got it all. You've got both poles.

Resources

Book: Going On Being: Buddhism and the Way of Change by Mark Epstein
App: My 3 3.ie

Bullying Story

  • I'll tell a personal story. When I was in 8th grade, I had a friend who, when she initially came into our school we were close and then we stopped connecting. It seemed like she was pulling away.
  • She was entering another, more popular group of girls at my school and I didn't understand. I kept reaching out and just kept getting nothing.
  • At that time, AIM (Instant Messenger) was a big thing, so after school we would come home and log on all your friends would be there.
  • One time I came home from school and this friend chats me, and I'm all excited because I thought I had this opportunity to connect with her again. She invited me to hang out.
  • Then I found out that it was actually her friend on the keyboard, telling me all this and lying to me. She was posing as that girl. I was totally crushed.
  • I think in that moment it confirmed something that I was already afraid about myself which was that no one wants to be my friend.
  • I grew up as an older child with older parents and so I was a very lonely kid. I was always hungry for social connection with my peers. I was so vulnerable to rejection, pranks, and insults.

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Overcome Holiday Sadness

Overcome Holiday Sadness

December 12, 2021

We're talking about mindfulness and today the topic is how to ‘Overcome Holiday Sadness’. We are going to explore this feeling that there's gloom and doom surrounding the holiday. Do you have a sinking feeling at times and you just feel like you can hardly drag yourself through it? You look around seeing the bright colored lights, hearing the music, with apparent happiness everywhere. You wonder why you feel empty and alone. The holiday season can be a challenge for many people. Is it difficult for you, someone you know or maybe a partner or family member? Today I’ll be talking about self-blame, boundaries, self-forgiveness, and asserting your truth. I want to talk about rediscovering your confidence, and regaining your vibrancy. At this time of year most people want to experience peace, contentment, and happiness.

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Emotional Pain

Confidentiality is important in my practice as I work with clients who experience many difficulties and emotional challenges. It’s rewarding to work with a client and then have them express to me how much better they feel and how effectively their issue is solved through hypnosis. Today, I'm going to share with you some information from one of my clients who is happy to use her name and her testimonial. She wants to share her experience with the world because she feels so much better after suffering a lot of emotional pain.

The Transition

Natalya has had significant struggles in her life. She came from the Ukraine and life was not very good there at the time. She had a young child and she and her husband brought their child to Canada. They overcame a lot of their challenges. But more recently, she started dealing with some emotional pain that was really holding her back and causing her to struggle. And so I worked with her using hypnosis and she was astounded at the transition she experienced.

Derailed?

This feeling that the whole world is happy, but you are not, is quite common. Sometimes this feeling is related to self blame it sometimes is connected to a belief that you haven't succeeded in life. Some people feel as though they haven’t made the right decisions or done the right things to be successful in life. Self-blame, or self-bullying can pull us down in a major way. It's your inner bully that is pulling you down and causing you to feel derailed.

Push it?

There are ways to deal with that inner bully. And one of the ways is to just allow the feelings to happen. Notice these emotions and allow them to be what they are. One of the tendencies that we have as humans is, we start to feel these negative emotions, and we tend to push them away. We are inclined to think, oh, I don't like that feeling, I don't want that. And so we do something to push the emotion away.

Stop

And what do we do to push the emotions away? Some of us get busy, we just keep working, working, working and trying forget about the negative emotions. Some of us entertain ourselves by watching tv or movies, playing games, cleaning, or even taking care of people. Some of us eat or consume alcohol or other substances. Instead of covering up the feelings, accept them, face them, and learn to exist with those emotions. Allow them to happen. Notice them in your body. And when I say notice them in your body, stop, take a breath, and notice where the feeling exists in your body? Is it in your chest? Is it in your shoulders, or your gut? Really stop and feel where it is in your body and allow yourself to go there and feel that feeling.

Boundaries

I also want to talk about boundaries. We need to set boundaries and allow ourselves to give ourselves what we need and what we thrive on. Some of us need quietness, some need space, and some thrive on peace. Sometimes your life is hectic, and chaotic and we forget or don’t give ourselves permission to give ourselves the very thing that we truly need. Maybe you just truly need 15 minutes of privacy or solitude. Allow yourself to have that by setting boundaries. Boundaries are important, especially at this time of year.

Become Free

Self-forgiveness is also crucial. Are you feeling that blame? Are you feeling as though you are blaming yourself for the way you're feeling and for the pain that you feel deep inside? Blaming yourself for how you feel makes things worse. Many times that blame exists in our subconscious minds and we don’t realize we are doing it. Our conscious mind is not aware of it. Sometimes we can't help ourselves, but it's so important to grasp the concept of self-forgiveness. Think to yourself, if I could forgive myself, could I do that? Could I actually forgive myself? Think about what that would be like? And then think, would I do that? If I could do it, would I do it? Would I actually free myself from these feelings? Think about the answers to those questions.

Methods

It takes time and it takes work but following the above suggestions can help you to feel better. It is important to assert your truth. Pay attention to your emotions and do the work to get to know and understand what is happening with your feelings. Many people find that journaling is a good way to do this. There are also other ways including meditation, talking it out, spending time in nature, or using mantras.

A Better Life

Here is what Natalya shared with me regarding the hypnosis and coaching work we did together.
“Hi, I am Natalya and I am a registered nurse in Toronto, Canada. I was lost and in emotional pain. I struggled with self-blame and lack of boundaries. I could never say no to anyone, no matter how unreasonable the request was. After just two sessions with Bruce, I started feeling an enormous positive shift. With two gentle hypnosis sessions, I have learned that I am capable of self-forgiveness, asserting my truth and keeping my boundaries. During our sessions, Bruce safely and gently took me to the sacred place where I felt confident and vibrant again; where I discovered a new and happy Natalya. Today, I am at peace with myself and my surroundings and I can say no to unnecessary pressure. I am eternally grateful for our coaching sessions. I highly recommend Bruce as a masterful and caring coach to anyone who wants to make a profound change for a better life.”

Self-Forgiveness

When I hear those words from Natalia, it moves me. I feel especially grateful for her transition when she talks about her past emotional pain and how much she struggled with self-blame and lack of boundaries. As she said, she had been caught in this trap where she felt she could not say no to anyone. I'm grateful that, looking back, she thinks of her experience as gentle hypnosis sessions. That's my goal. My goal is to move into this gently, and to help my client learn that they are capable of self-forgiveness. We have to start by understanding the definition of self-forgiveness.

Need To Talk?

Natalya was able to assert her truth as she put it, and then set boundaries. Setting boundaries and understanding the concept of self blame and self forgiveness can help you move forward, to rediscover confidence. It's possible for you to find your peace, and to get to a place where you treasure the current moment. This is something that you can you can discover on your own if you are able to stop and do some journaling and meditation. If you’re like Natalya, maybe you need to reach out to somebody to get help externally. I will share with you that I have room for one more client at this point so if you’re interested, send me an email, Bruce@mindfulnessmode.com. Put ‘holiday sadness’ in the subject line and we’ll arrange a free zoom call where we can discuss your situation.

Feel Happy

I'd be very happy to, to hear from you and to talk to you about the power of hypnosis to help people like you transition to a better place. Natalia is just one example. I've had quite a number of clients that I've worked with using hypnosis and when it comes to anxiety and stress, it's quite amazing how hypnosis can make a difference. You deserve to find your peace. You deserve to be content, to be happy, and to feel grounded. You deserve to feel fully satisfied and to feel content, and happy.
Thanks for listening and have a great week.

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Making a Ruckus in Education; Daniel Bauer

Making a Ruckus in Education; Daniel Bauer

December 8, 2021

Daniel Bauer is an unorthodox Ruckus Maker who has mentored thousands of school leaders through his Better Leaders Better Schools blog, books, podcasts, and powerful coaching experiences. Mastermind: Unlocking Talent Within Every School Leader, is a book that reimagines what professional development for school administrators looks like in order to meet the needs of all school leaders who currently feel isolated and overwhelmed.

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Why Ruckus-Maker?

  • Since day 1, I've always colored outside the lines. I've carved my own path. My mom reflected this back to me. As a kid I told her, I'm never going to work in a cubicle.
  • Being a Ruckus-Maker, carving out your own path, it's questioning the status quo, standing up for what's right and making change happen in my field of education.
  • It's about making very positive change in the world. It's been inspired by a mentor of mine, Seth Godin. He says, go make a ruckus. That's an identity I wear. The community really resonates with it.

Changes

  • People are hungry for change in education. They're also hungry for authenticity. That's the wildest part. I used to be embarrassed.
  • Now I serve school leaders and they listen. I have impact. I get to hear about the influence I have in their life.
  • The new book, MasterMind; Unlocking Talent Within Every School Leader, is co-published by the National School Superintendent's Association.

Working With School Leaders

  • We start teaching how to integrate more authenticity, belonging and challenge within your school culture.
  • We dive in with both feet. They find that, [they learn by] surrounding themselves with other school leaders who all want to grow.
  • I just had a conversation with John, a Principal in Delaware, and I asked him, what's been most surprising as you've worked with me? He said, I can't believe a group that is brought together for professional reasons to be more effective as a school leader. I was so surprised at how much personal stuff is shared, how vulnerable, and the level of compassion is apparent. You can feel it.” He said, “this is something special you are doing with your culture.”
  • It's getting them to dive in with both feet and see that there's a space that wants to nurture and help them grow.

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Creativity

  • There's a million ways that we nurture creativity in leaders. Interestingly, a few years back, I think we all experienced the feeling that ‘the grass is always greener'.
  • If my business didn't operate in education, but did whatever else, there'd be more opportunity and things would be going better. I'm sharing that because I wanted to dive into this idea of creativity within businesses. I finally am so happy and comfortable and I'm not trying to go any place else now.
  • I share that to say, creativity has always been important to me. We infuse creativity in the mastermind experience.

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How To Live From The Heart; Nanette Hucknall

How To Live From The Heart; Nanette Hucknall

December 5, 2021

Nanette V. Hucknall is a recognized authority on relationships, healing psychological wounds, overcoming obstacles and self-empowerment. She is an award-winning author, teacher, trained therapist, career counselor and painter. Through her books, classes, lectures, and retreats, she has deepened the lives of hundreds of spiritual practitioners. Nanette is the author of seven non-fiction books on the teachings of the Higher Self. Her background in both the Agni Yoga tradition combined with the application of Psychosynthesis in her therapy practice has placed her in the unique position of being able to speak to both the conceptual elements of the Higher Self Teachings and their practical applications in everyday life. Her book, How To Live From The Heart, includes compelling stories and illuminating exercises to show you practical ways to listen with your heart and relate to others.

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Most Influential Person

  • My spiritual teacher

Effect on Emotions

  • When I was in my twenties, my worst problems were my emotions. If I would date somebody and break up with them, I would suffer for at least six months. If I loved the person, I would suffer for a year or two years.
  • When I started working with my higher self, it put me in that place of asking, why am I doing this to myself; why am I not being mindful about myself. Let go of these emotions.
  • My main focus when I was in my twenties was to really let go of my emotions. Every day at the end of the day I would do a nightly review. Why was I emotional? Who made me emotional? Now I have my clients do nightly reviews.

Thoughts on Breathing

  • I do a lot of exercise. I've done the happy yoga which is a physical yoga. They really talk a lot about breathing.
  • I do pilates and my pilates teacher talks a lot about breathing.
  • I'm going to a physical therapist now for some of my arthritis and she gives me all kinds of breathing exercises.
  • Breathing is very much a part of my exercise routine.

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Bullying Story

  • I was an art director in the 1960's and there were very few art directors at that time who were women.
  • Companies told me at the time that they never hire women. In my mid twenties I finally managed to get an art director's job.
  • I had to work with an account exec who was an older man in his late fifties. He said he would not work with a woman. The head of the agency told him he had to work with me.
  • The first two or three weeks he was terrible to me. He ordered me around and made me do things I didn't want to do.
  • After that I told him, you're not my boss, you're my co-worker and you don't tell me what to do in this job.
  • Then I started producing work and he liked my work. From then on we were very good friends. It was rough.

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Booster Shot of Happiness; Soren Russow

Booster Shot of Happiness; Soren Russow

December 1, 2021

Soren Russow was diagnosed with Atrial Fibrillation (A-Fib) over 15 years ago at only 31 years of age. He was expecting his first child at the time (he now has three amazing daughters), he was playing competitive beach volleyball and eating well. Why did this happen? Would he be taking pharmaceuticals for the rest of his life?
Soren made a decision to tackle this condition in a natural way and become a guinea pig of sorts. Through his research and experimentation, he has found great results in easing his A-fib and is empowered to share his findings with others.
Through harnessing his story and results, Soren has shared his transformation with many people at various conferences online and in-person. He made it to the District Public Speaking Championships (Toastmasters International Speech Contest) three years in a row with this powerful message.
Recently, Soren has become a Transformational Coach helping those with A-Fib discover natural solutions to transition from overwhelm around their A-Fib condition to living with more vitality and ease.

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Effect on Emotions

  • Mindfulness really helps my emotions because when you look at something and you go, oh my gosh, I can't believe someone did that, and you start to judge and go into this whole story, and then you redefine that thought.
  • Then what happens is, it turns you from kind of a depressed state to more of an elated state of mind. That switch can happen so quickly but it takes awareness and consciousness of where that's happening.
  • Being able to analyze your thoughts and be able to redefine them, has made a huge shift.
  • Marcy Shimoff, who wrote Happy For No Reason, talks about the happiness set-point. So ultimately, we want to increase our happiness set-point. We all have a happiness set-point but it can be adjusted and moved up but that takes time and that takes awareness.

Thoughts on Breathing

  • Breathing helps me access the now or the present moment. One of my favorite writers is Eckhart Tolle, and The Power of Now is a fantastic book.
  • When you just focus on breathing and take the time to consciously breathe, you're not thinking about all those things. You're just right here, in the present moment. That's where breathing, and then meditation, when you go into deep breathing for a long period of time, you start to allow yourself to just be.
  • We're called human beings, after all, and sometimes I think we should be called human doings because we put such a value on the doing. We need to focus on the being as well.

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Bullying Story

  • When I was around 13, in grade 8, I had a really rough year. I ended up having to change schools. Both of my parents had lost their jobs during the recession. This was in the early 80s.
  • I just had one pair of shorts, one pair of pants, a t-shirt, a sweater and I was going to a school where there were a lot of rich kids. They started to bully me a lot. I'm almost 6′ 3″ now, but I was the shortest in my class in grade 8.
  • They would say nasty things to me and they would stuff me in lockers and lock the lockers so I would be in darkness for a couple hours. It was awful.
  • One time I was attacked by two guys in my class and they pushed me over, close to this creek when I was on my way home. One of them jumped on me and the other one pulled off my shirt. The other one started to twist my nipple. It's called purple nurple; they twisted it so much that it started to turn purple.
  • I was also thrown in garbage cans and rolled down the hallways of the school. I got through the school year with a lot of difficulty.
  • I really could have used laughter at that time. I suppressed my tears. I was playing soccer at the time. My father was the type of person who said, “be tough”. A lot of the time I was suppressing my emotions, so laughter would have been very useful for me.

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Color Is An Energy Vitamin

Color Is An Energy Vitamin

November 28, 2021

Color is the topic today. Did you know that color is an energy vitamin? I found that sentence in the book, Feel Better In Five Minutes by Amanda Hainline. And if you've been listening to the show, you know that she was my last episode. I wanted to talk about this whole idea of color because this sentence, ‘Color Is An Energy Vitamin’ is the title of one of the chapters in Amanda Hainline’s book.

I interviewed and released Amanda’s interview on Thanksgiving Day in the US. I noticed the episode got quite a few downloads, but I think it's worthy of even more. You can listen to the episode here: www.MindfulnessMode.com/713.

Amanda is so vibrant, so upbeat, and so knowledgeable about many things when it comes to gaining control over your emotions and feeling better. After all, feeling better, has everything to do with our emotions. That's why I wanted to talk to you about this topic of color and how it can affect us.

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Colors For Energy

Did you know that colors correlate to different emotions? We are naturally drawn to colors that benefit us energetically. Some of us benefit from bright, vibrant colors, and some of us are naturally drawn to the more muted tones. Colors can be used in healing. I encourage you to get Amanda’s book, Feel Better In Five Minutes, because it has so much interesting content about learning to deal with your emotions. The subtitle of the book is, ‘An Empowering Guide To Gain Control Over Your Emotions.

Clothing Choices

Dressing with certain colors can help your mood. Observe your mood when you're around certain colors. I am well aware that for me, there are certain colors that make me feel really upbeat, and energetic, and other colors that sort of drag me down. Take the next few days and think about what colors empower you, what colors agitate you, what colors drain energy from you. Pay attention to what colors you're naturally drawn to and then begin to surround yourself with those colors.

A Mug?

When you identify the colors that make you feel good, get a cup or a mug in that color and drink from it. Eating foods of that color will incorporate that color into your body. Amanda also said that sunlight is a great way to get the full spectrum of color into your energy system and clear your energy. I think it's such an interesting concept that color is an energy vitamin. Because even though I never thought of it that way before I realized that yes, color is an energy vitamin.

Win With Color

Because color is such a powerful tool and holds the energetic vibrations of emotions, it makes sense that we should use it to our advantage whenever possible, like the clothes we wear. She says it's important to note that sometimes you may need a color that does not look particularly great on you. And so if this is the case, wear that color as a small accessory, or a belt or shoes or whatever.

A Chill Day?

Think about what you have to do during your day. Is there an important meeting on your calendar? Or are you having a chill day? Take stock of how you're feeling? Are you confident, bold, depressed, anxious or overwhelmed? Refer to the color and emotions charts that she has included in this book to see what fits you best. If you're having a big meeting and feel like you're lacking confidence, try wearing something red or orange to bring on the power to boost you.

Relax With Color

If you are relaxing after a long week, cuddle up in some soft off white, pink or grey loungewear for the morning. If you're not sure what colors to wear, just open up your closet and see what colors you're attracted to that day and let your intuition guide you. Again, colors correlate to different emotions. The book includes a chart of all the different colors and how they correlate to different emotions.

Color Charts

‘Feel Better In Five Minutes’ has QR codes because there are some charts and some different kinds of images that she was not able to include in the book, so she's included QR codes. You can simply aim your device at the QR codes and you’ll see the charts and images that are not included in the book.

Vibrancy

When I started talking to Amanda at the interview time, I noticed right away that she was just as vibrant as she appeared on the front cover of her book. So again, her book is called feel better in five minutes: An Empowering guide to gain control over your emotions. Use these suggestions so you can feel better, get more energy, and feel more calm. So thanks again for listening to mindfulness mode. Bye now.

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Feel Better in Five Minutes; Amanda Hainline

Feel Better in Five Minutes; Amanda Hainline

November 24, 2021

Amanda Hainline is an emotional freedom mentor, intuitive healer, and author of the book Feel Better in Five Minutes: An Empowering Guide to Gain Control Over Your Emotions. In Feel Better in Five Minutes Amanda shares 79 emotional freedom methods to help others gain freedom from the anxiety, depression, and stress that are rampant today, to help themselves and others.

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Most Influential Person

  • Sara Blakely

Effect on Emotions

  • I used to feel that I was a victim of my emotions. I carried it as part of my identity, for example, I am depressed, I am anxious.
  • Now when I'm experiencing an emotion, actually I am grateful for it because this shows me that it's linked to something deeper.
  • I will go into my emotional state and work on understanding what that emotion is connected to.
  • Then I will start working on the underlying trauma or cause of that emotional state. This is true especially if I realize I am over-exaggerating my reaction to something.

Thoughts on Breathing

  • Breathing is one of those things that's very powerful because it supersedes or interjects itself into your body and into your mindset.
  • I suggest doing intentional breathing, a deep breath into your belly, and breathing out, and focus on that for mindfulness.
  • You can focus on breathing in calm energy and breathing out anxious energy, or breathing in happy energy and breathing out depressed energy.
  • This is a very good way to come back to center and come back to focus because it takes your mind off of all other extraneous things that may be distracting you.

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Bullying Story

  • I wasn't usually at the brunt of being bullied. It was more feeling like I was left out a lot of times. Having developed a better sense of self when I was younger, if I'd had some kind of support, it would have been wonderful.
  • When my youngest son was in first or second grade, there was a girl who was picking on him and he was really angry about it. He said, “I told the teacher and she won't listen because she's grown and I'm just a boy.”
  • There was this whole dynamic that the teacher was just not understanding what was going on.
  • I told him, “there's a reason that she's acting that way towards you. This is not about you, it's about what she's going through in her life. It's about her misery.”
  • I said, “what she's feeling inside is so much harder for her than what she's giving to you, so you need to think about that. When she's mean to you, think, she must be really going through something.”
  • He said that he got to where he could talk to her and he said, “mom, I found out that her parents were getting divorced. She was really angry because her mom was living with somebody else and she missed her dad.”
  • He said, “I understand now”.

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Embracing The Peace Process

Embracing The Peace Process

November 21, 2021

The more we can learn to deal with our emotions, the more we can understand about this part of who we are. I've just attended a 4-day event and I want to share it with you, at least one aspect of the event. This was a four day intensive virtual event with Christian Mickelson, a powerful leader who's helps people to be incredible coaches. The event was called Instant Miracle Mastery and one of the skills we learned is called The Peace Process. This process has changed lives, and it has brought a lot of calmness to people and helped them resolve conflicts and challenges in their lives. During the event, we learned four specific techniques to use to help people, and the one I am going to focus on today is The Peace Process. It can help you resolve some of the difficulties in life; some of the, the conflicts or mind blocks that are holding you back.

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One Technique

There were 430 people at the event and after Christian Mickelsen taught us the skills that we needed to know, we broke out into small breakout sessions to practice with each other. He demonstrated how to use the techniques that he taught.  We watched, listened, took notes, and then practiced in a breakout session with three, four or five people. I felt so in alignment with The Peace Process and so that's why I've decided to focus specifically on that one tool for this podcast episode. I will share with you seven details about the peace process that I thought would be meaningful for you.

5 Aspects of The Peace Process

  1. Yourself or Others
  2. Giving Space
  3. Listening
  4. Natural and Straight-forward
  5. Easy To Learn
  6. KISS – Keep It Simple
  7. Emotions

More Details

1. Once you learn the peace process, you can do this technique with yourself. Or you can do it with others. As you know, I do hypnosis with people to help them and I also do self hypnosis. This method is not hypnosis; it's different. But it was very interesting to know that, as with hypnosis, we can use this technique on ourselves or on others . At the event we practiced with other people. I haven't had a lot of time to use this technique with myself but I will be doing that. It was really quite incredible how much peace and resolution people in these breakout sessions were able to experience.

2. The second point I want to share with you is that this involves giving space to whatever issue you have. This process helps simplify the issue and make it more clear. The Peace Process will help the issue you're dealing with become less overwhelming and less complicated

3. Listening is a very important part of The Peace Process. When you sit down with a friend, maybe you're just sitting down to have a coffee, or to talk, I'm sure you know that, the more you tune into your friend and what they are saying, the more you will connect as a friend. The value of your time together will increase depending on each of your listening skills. Truly, I think that throughout life, we can continue and continue to learn to be better listeners. I know that I've been working on being a good listener for most of my life.

4. The Peace Process feels natural, straightforward, and comfortable. If you have a coach, or even if you're sitting down with a friend, I think most of us want to have a natural, comfortable conversation. That's one of the things I loved about the peace process. It felt natural, straightforward, and comfortable.

5. It was easy to learn. Christian made it that way because he's been teaching for a very long time, and he has the skill of presenting concepts in a straightforward way and offering them to participants so they are easy to understand and simple to digest. Like I mentioned, being a great listener and the skill of giving space is a big part of The Peace Process.

6. The simple aspect of this technique is why so many of the people I talked to truly appreciated The Peace Process. I personally think, as human beings, we tend to complicate many aspects of life. I know I have that tendency. We tend to think that the most valuable things are difficult to learn, or they're complicated, or they're expensive. With The Peace Process, the more you can understand it's simplicity, the more you can understand it's power and capability.

7. Emotions and learning to embrace emotions is part of the power of The Peace Process. Dealing with emotions can be difficult and sometimes scary, but this technique can help you feel calm about your emotions. In the past there were times when I didn't know what to do with my emotions. Fear and anger were challenging to deal with at times. Sometimes they would freak me out or I wondered what to do with these feelings. When I was younger, I was more inclined to push my emotions down and pretend they didn't exist. Sometimes I would watch a TV program, eat food, or do something to take my mind away from my emotions. I don't know if you're anything like me, but from my coaching I know that a lot of people don't know how to cope with emotions.

The Peace Process helps you move through whatever it is that you're experiencing. There was so much more I could share with you about this event, but I just wanted to keep today's today's episode straight forward and that's why I'm just focusing on one of the skills we learned.

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Master Lama Rasaji is one of only 12 Master Lamas in the world. He lived and trained at the original Tai Chi Gong Lamasery in Tibet. Master Rasaji has been trained in Lao Tzu's regenerative health system for more than 50 years and has been teaching for over 40 years.  This is a health system for longevity that has been passed down from teacher to student in an unbroken lineage for more than 3,000 years. Master Rasaji is the founder of Circle of Life and helps his students overcome challenges and teaches them how to know and live abundance in all aspects of life: health, finances, relationships and service to the world.

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  • Master Bojong Gede

Effect on Emotions

  • In the early stages, people think they are their emotions. Every time something tips us one way or the other, when we are in that reactionary consciousness, I look at it like an emotional pinball on a pinball machine from years ago.
  • After several decades of meditating and doing the Tai Chi Gong art, you realize that emotions are like the wind; they flow through you and out of you.
  • Sometimes they stem from things you were doing and sometimes they stem from other people that you're actually picking up on.
  • One of the most profound things that you learn in the early training of Tai Chi Gong is that a human being has the ability to feel beyond their physicalness

Thoughts on Breathing

  • Praying with prayer beads and learning to breathe basic energy is at the base of everything that we do. That was handed down from the ancient teachings.
  • What we learn is that, everybody knows that they are born of the water and they have their physical umbilical cord cut, we actually have what is referred to as the psychic umbilical cord. It's about an inch to 2 inches higher than our physical one.
  • Many talks and scriptures focus on breathing in that area. The moment that energy starts to feed the vortex of the chakras and they stimulate the spokes that come out of the chakras called the nadas, which is sanskrit for spokes, everything changes.
  • When we hit puberty, what puts us into this metaphysical second birth, or the wakening of the kundalini, is the pranayama of learning to breathe energy instead of just oxygen. It changes everything.

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Are you feelin' good today? Or do you have a nagging, aching feeling in your body that you'd like to replace with peace and contentment? Last week I talked about finding mindfulness by taking action and this week I start off by telling you two ways that I took action and feel good as a result. Have you
taken action recently on something that has been on your mind for weeks or even months? Today I'm going to share 5 ways to be mindful and bring more positivity into your world. As a result of your mindfulness, I believe you'll feel good and begin to increase your level of contentment.

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