Unlearn Anxiety & Depression; Dr. Joe Luciani

Dr. Joe Luciani helps you unlearn anxiety. He's been a practicing clinical psychologist for more than 40 years and is the internationally bestselling author of the Self-Coaching series of books, now published in 10 languages. His latest book is, Unlearning Anxiety & Depression: The 4-Step Self-Coaching Program to Reclaim Your Life (Goodman Beck, April 28, 2020). He appears frequently on national TV, radio and online, and has been featured in numerous national media sites.

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• Website: www.selfcoaching.net
• Blog by Dr. Joe Luciani
• FB: Dr. Joe Luciani Self-Coaching
• LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/dr-joe-luciani-11113611/

Most Influential Person

• Carl Jung, the Swiss Psychiatrist

Effect on Emotions

• I started in psychology because of my own anxieties. I wanted answers, that's why I got into analysis. That's why I pursued all this, I wanted answers.
• Mindfulness has been the icing on the cake. I laid the foundation and found all the gears I had to get into gear and I've put myself into a better position to experience life.
• Mindfulness now is the ability to take all of that and take that deep breath and really experience the wonder and the beauty and the excitement of life. It only gets better.
• I learned through mindfulness, every day, every decade is better than the one preceding it. I'm so encouraged by life itself.

Thoughts on Breathing

• The breath is so central to so many schools and orientations. The breath is that which we exist on.
• It is everything that is of life itself. It is the embodiment, psychologically and physically of that which sustains us. As we focus on the breath, I think we touch something much deeper.

Suggested Resources

• Book: The Book of Awakening: Have the Life You Want by Being Present to the Life You Have by Mark Nepo
• App: n/a–

Live a Legendary Life; Tommy Breedlove

Tommy Breedlove, in my opinion, leads a legendary life. He is the creator of the Choose Goodness Movement and he’s also a Wall Street Journal & USA Today bestselling author of the book, Legendary. Tommy is a business, relationship, and mindset coach who is a frequently featured keynote speaker at global events. He serves clients and audiences by empowering them to build and live Legendary Lives and to work in their zone of brilliance, obtain financial freedom, and live with meaning and balance. Tommy was featured on a previous episode of Mindfulness Mode back in July of 2017 called Choose Goodness And Meaning. You might want to check it out.

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• Website: www.TommyBreedlove.com/gifts
• Book: Legendary: A Simple Playbook For Building and Living A Legendary Life, and Being Remembered As A Legend by Tommy Breedlove

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Bruce Langford: How did you get this Book project, about creating a legendary life, together? Was it a bit of a struggle getting this thing to happen or what?

Tommy Breedlove: So audience, Bruce, so we were getting into this struggle cause yes, it was a struggle. Fear, perfectionism, not good enough time. All of that stuff that we all deal with as human beings got in the way. But it was so funny, Bruce, it was like, we gotta get this. And so yes, it was a struggle. A good mutual friend of Bruce and I, Tom Schwab, who's also been on this show and who Bruce and Tom I believe will be remembered as Legendary humans, which is a real compliment, but he told me three years ago that you need to get your story out to the world and you need to tell your story and you need to inspire people and hopefully give people the gift of going second, which is to be raw and vulnerable about where you've been, what you've been through and how you got through it.

Tommy Breedlove: Tom said, the world needs to hear this story, especially the business world, which I came from the world of large business and financial world. So it was three years in the writing. It was all blood, sweat and tears. The original name of the book was palmed the King, which didn't ever resonate with me in some ways I think I was going to a Game of Thrones phase. And so here we are, two years in, six months publishing deadlines facing us, lots of consultants publishing the deadlines, but also pressures from the publisher on the writing. We had some consultants involved and it just never felt like me and never felt like it had my blood and my soul and my heart. It felt forced and on some levels it felt negative and not positive. And I wanted to put light out to the world and hope and simple executable tools.

Tommy Breedlove: It also felt too deep, like it was too deep and all of these subjects that could have been books in themselves. And so one night two years and six months into this process, my wife was out of town and I had gotten the latest version back from the team and, and it's all on me. It's not on them. And by the way, there are some of the most talented people I've ever met in the world and they, once I got my blood and soul on it, they made it rise and it's become the success it's become. But one year over, my wife was traveling and I might or might not have had a little too much bourbon after reading that book and it just hit me. Write the book that you needed during your transition at 36, right? The book that literally saved your life, right?

Tune in to the episode to learn more from Tommy Breedlove about living a Legendary Life.

Deal With Depression By Using Self-Care App, MindStar; CEO Kristin Rulon

Kristin Rulon is passionate about helping people with their mental wellness. She is a survivor of postpartum depression and Post Traumatic Stress Disorder, and as a result of her experiences, she developed Mind Star, the world’s first self-care app that pays you back. This app allows users to track their self-care over time and be rewarded for it. After Kristin gave birth to her third child, she had a birth control shot, and shortly after developed serious health issues. She decided to focus on healthy eating and exercise along with a vitamin plan. This helped for a few months and once again she began suffering mental health issues.

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• Company: Mind Star Health LLC
• Website: http://mindstarapp.com
• App: MindStar App by Kristin Rulon

Most Influential Person

• Dr. Kristin Neff, Self-Compassion expert, Author

Effect on Emotions

• “Mindfulness has enabled me to identify my emotions and no longer attach myself to them.”

Thoughts on Breathing

• “I like to tell people that we are like trees and. it all comes down to the stump. And the stump to me is breathing.”
• “Being aware of breathing is such a very vital part of that tree. It all starts there at the stump of breathing.”

Suggested Resources

• Book: Mindfulness Self-Compassion Workbook by Dr. Kristin Neff
• App: MindStar App by Kristin Rulon, Headspace, Calm

Bullying Story

• “I like to picture my inner bully as very small. I give her own color and name. My inner bully is very small.”
• “I just to say; Oh, there is my little inner bully. There she is. She's so cute, she's trying to ruin my day. It's kind of taking its power.”

Trauma Recovery Coach; Linn Rivers

Linn Rivers is a coach and mentor who uses Neuro-linguistic programming, hypnosis, coaching, and mentorship. Using these tools, she is able to connect directly with the subconscious mind to make relatively quick and dependable shifts in the neurological system. Linn is able to relate closely with people on a wide range of traumatic events that she herself has overcome, such as the death of loved ones, abandonment, neglect, sexuality issues, growing up with an alcoholic parent, relationship dynamics, gender identity, anger/fear, addiction, illness, and near-death experiences.

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• Website: www.LinnRivers.com
• Upcoming: A short documentary called Victim To Victor is coming out soon. Once it is shown at the film festivals, it will be available on www.LinnRivers.com.

Most Influential Person

• Myself

Effect on Emotions

• Mindfulness has made me very thankful and appreciative of every single emotion that I have.
• Every emotion is on purpose. Mindfulness has taught me to not ignore them (my emotions) and not push them away.

Thoughts on Breathing

• Breathing is a mindfulness practice of making sure that I'm in my body and that I'm using my breath.
• You will see that I take deep breaths often to really just be present. It's that reminder that I am here and breathe. Just simply breathing just allows you to stay present.

Suggested Resources

• Book: n/a
• App: n/a

Bullying Story

• I have been bullied the majority of my life because I am a very powerful person and people don't like that. If it comes to a career and anyone thinks that you are going to overstep them or take a position that they wanted, you're suddenly the target. In school I was a big target.
• As a child I was a major tomboy and I would kick all of the guy's butts in football and hockey and basketball. I was bullied a lot for that and a lot of it still registers in my head.
  

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Create A New Life; Be Inspired By Paula Peralta

Paula Peralta is a celebrity hairstylist and a business and empowerment coach. According to some standards, she has done everything wrong to achieve success, yet Paula exudes joy and is experiencing more success than ever before. Paula loves to share how taking a step back from living life on everyone else’s terms was the best move she ever made. Paula helps her clients visualize how they can create a new life even with a blank slate. She believes it’s possible to make a career change at almost any stage in life.

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• Company: Access Consciousness 
• Website: PaulaPeralta.com
• Instagram: @hairbypaulaperalta

Most Influential Person

• Sarah Grandinetti, Access Consciousness facilitator , Bestfriend and Business Partner

Effect on Emotions

• “It has got me out of being an effect of my emotions.”

Thoughts on Breathing

• “Breathing is one of the greatest tools to connect with our bodies.”
• “It gives us the opportunity to take a pause to expand out energetically and talk to our bodies about what it's aware of.”

Suggested Resources

• Book: Being You, Changing the World by Dr. Dain Heer
• App: Who Does It Belong To

Bullying Story

• “Bullying is based on the insecurities of the person who is the bully. They only try to bring down people who they perceive as stronger than them.”
• “I was raised around adults so I was very articulate and curious. I was very conversational with my teachers so I would get picked on as a teachers pet or that I talk too much.”

Kickass In The Acting Biz; Debra Wanger

Debra Wanger is an actor, singer, and certified wellness coach, who has performed in theaters and cabarets across the U.S. Debra helps actors and creatives connect mind, body, and spirit through her holistic approach to acting. She's a sought-after public speaker and talent manager where she’s helped guide the careers of top Hollywood names including Donald Sutherland, Halle Berry, and Antonio Banderas. Debra draws wisdom from decades of working as an actor, talent manager, and lifestyle coach. Her book The Resilient Actor: How to Kick-Ass in the Business Without it Kicking Your Ass was an Amazon bestseller.

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• Website: www.DebraWanger.com
• Book: The Resilient Actor: How to Kick-Ass in the Business Without it Kicking Your Ass by Debra Wanger
• Book: The Resilient Actor's Workbook and Planner by Debra Wanger
• BONUS: Contact Debra through her website at mail at Debra Wanger dot com. Inquire about receiving a complimentary audiobook of The Resilient Actor

Most Influential Person

• Emily Fletcher (who runs the Zeva School of Meditation – www.ZevaMeditation.com

Effect on Emotions

• The biggest thing is with the presence and being able to take my brain back when the thoughts and the monkeys highjack my brain. Mindfulness is a way for me to calm myself, get centered, and reclaim my brain.

Thoughts on Breathing

• Breathing is huge. That's where I tell people to start, actually. That's the least expensive and lowest impact way is to just breathe through your nose.
• When our sympathetic nervous system takes over and we are feeling like there's a threat, we are not breathing well and we're panting or moving our chest just to reclaim breathing by taking slow deliberate breaths through our nose and telling our body it's safe, I'm in charge, I'm okay, no one's chasing us, we're safe. That is where it all begins.
• Breathing is where it's at, baby!

Suggested Resources

• Book: Any books by Rick Hanson www.RickHanson.net
• Book: The Resilient Actor: How to Kick-Ass in the Business Without it Kicking Your Ass by Debra Wanger
• Book: The Resilient Actor's Workbook and Planner by Debra Wanger
• Book: Audio Version of The Resilient Actor is Available
• App: www.Nucalm.com (It's a whole system)
• App: www.ChooseMuse.com (A headband to help you meditate)

Bullying Story

• When I was eleven years old I lost my first friend to suicide. She was twelve years old. I remember I had gone to one of my first funerals and it was the first time I had ever been in a Catholic church … I remember seeing this family completely destroyed. My mother made the choice for me to go back to school that day. …
• There were some boys in my class who noticed that I was different (I was still wearing my funeral clothes). I told them that I'd been to a funeral and they started making fun of me.
• They started saying horrible things which I now know in hindsight as my adult self is that they were trying to deal with an unimaginable situation. [They said things like] … she probably took one look at you and jumped out the window just looking at your face. They said horrible things and I was in such shock or so insecure that I just took it. I didn't fight back or say anything.
• Now, I would tell the teacher, or I would stand up and say ‘you guys are being first-class jerks. I went through a horrible situation. How dare you make fun of someone who's in such a horrible situation?'

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Marketing and Copywriting Expert; Steve McChesney

Steve McChesney is a sales and marketing expert and as a result, has a keen awareness of mindfulness and being grounded. He’s created programs for Personal Development, Stress Release, Weight Loss, and To Stop Smoking. He attended a private film school in California, became a stunt man, and performed in over 350 movies and television shows. He has produced and directed various shows and has also performed live Comedy Hypnosis shows. Steve is known for the statement, “Learning is directly proportional to the amount of fun you are having!”

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• Website: www.RearrangingChange.com
• Book: Rearranging Change: How You Market To An Ever-Changing World by Steve McChesney

Most Influential Person

• Tony Robbins
• Zig Ziglar

Effect on Emotions

• Mindfulness has caused me to also carry my emotions on my sleeve. I can cry easily, not just when I'm sad, but just when I'm overwhelmed, and with warm feelings and love. So I'm very emotional that way.
• I have kind of corrected my anger. I don't fly off the handle like I used to in the early days, but I drank a lot back then. I've always been able to hold my emotions right there on my sleeve.

Thoughts on Breathing

• I believe breathing is one of the most important things when it comes to mindfulness because that is life. Oxygen is life. One of the things you may not know about me is that I was also a stage hypnotist. One of the major things about hypnosis is the breathing.
• If you're laying in bed and you can't get to sleep, if you'll just breathe and think about the breath you're taking, inhaling and exhaling. Put everything else out of your mind and just think about breathing. You can feel the life that's going into your body. I promise you, if you do that correctly, you're going to be asleep.

Suggested Resources

• Book: Who Moved My Cheese by Spencer Johnson
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• App: n/a

Bullying Story

• Twelve years ago my wife and I started a website called Bully-Free Kids dot com. My wife was a seventh grade language arts teacher. At the time, I was in the martial arts business. We both experienced and saw bullying at it's worst. She was in seventh grade, which is puberty. That's where a lot of bullying will happen.
• I was a bully when I was a kid, one time only. I'll tell you the story. It's a lesson I've held and learned from my whole life … (tune into the podcast to hear Steve's story).

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Learn How To Meditate The Easy Way

Is anxiety and stress in your life right now? Do you feel overwhelmed and worried? Meditation can help eliminate those feelings and move you to a place of calm, focus, and happiness. Feel relaxed and present.

Today's episode is all about meditation and how it can improve your life.

Mani Vaya believes in meditation and has been meditating for 20 years, having started as a teenager because of the huge challenges he was facing in his life. Mani is a former Physicist and Electrical and Computer Engineer who went on to oversee the launches of huge cell phone products. Since that time, he has since become an entrepreneur with the ‘2000Books' Youtube channel and podcast where he interviews top business and self-help authors. Mani teaches meditation, mindset, and mental toughness strategies as part of his work at 2000books.com.

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• Website: www.2000Books.com
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Mindfulness in Marketing, Affiliate Institute Co-Founder, Mathieu Jang

Mathieu Jang is hooked on helping people think outside the box, and especially if that box has anything to do with our educational system. He has helped people shove aside conventional ways of thinking, and taught them to build lives of freedom by increasing their income to 6, 7, and 8 figures. Mathieu, known simply as, ‘Jang’ is highly sought after as a marketing strategist and consultant. He co-founded one of the world’s most well-known affiliate marketing education platforms, called the Affiliate Institute.

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• Company: Affiliate Institute
• Website: mathieujang.com
• Podcast: @mathieujang

Most Influential Person

• Kameron George – Business Partner, and First Mentor

Effect on Emotions

• “I don't think it's affected my emotions, I think it helped me managed them a little better.”
• “My natural mode was if I feel an emotion, and if it's anger, it's an immediate reaction. Now, If I just wait and observe it long enough, it just goes away.”

Thoughts on Breathing

• “Breathe in for four, hold for four. Breathe out for four, hold for four.”

Suggested Resources

• Book: Becoming Supernatural by Dr. Joe Dispenza
• App: Muse, Calm

Bullying Story

• “I was bullied and I witnessed a lot of it with other kids.”
• “Mindfulness could've helped me cope and deal with it a little better.”
• “The only reason I tried weed was to be accepted and not picked on.”

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Episode Transcript

Note: The following transcript is a draft transcript, and as such, may contain computer-generated mistranslations.

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Bring Calm To Your Troubled Mind

Bring calm to your troubled mind. I'll talk about four topics, specifically Breathing, Mantras, Meditation, and Sleep.

Breathing - Make a time twice each day to breathe at least 30 deliberate, deep breaths. Do an inhale through the nose if possible and then pause and exhale as much as possible. Use a counting pattern like inhale for 6, pause for 2, and exhale for 4 counts. You can do breathing exercises while walking, stretching, or enjoying nature.

Mantras - Create a personal mantra that has deep meaning for you. Take some time with a notebook and jot down words that are important to you. You can get some ideas by searching online for mantras that work for other people. Settle on a mantra for yourself that feels good, isn't too long or too short, and then commit it to memory. Every time you feel some anxiety or self-bullying happening in your mind, quickly shift to your mantra. This will help you feel calmer and more relaxed.

Meditation – Find a place that is comfortable and sit on the floor on a mat or sit in a straight-backed chair. Focus on the flame of a candle if you wish and you may want to use some essential oil in a diffuser. If you're new to meditation, use a guided meditation or nature sounds. A timer can be helpful so you won't be wondering how much time has passed. The app, Insight Timer is an excellent tool to help with meditation. You can use it only as a timer, or for nature sounds or you can find many guided meditations on the app.

Sleep - Avoid your phone, device, or screens of any kind for two or three hours before bedtime. Also, don't expose yourself to the news in the three hours before bed. Set your phone to airplane mode, turn it off, or turn off wi-fi if you have your phone anywhere near you while sleeping. Also, it's recommended to turn off the wi-fi in your home during sleep time. Eating food just before bed can also affect your sleep. Some recommend a cold shower in the hour or two leading up to bedtime, especially if you've been having a tough time getting to sleep or sleeping soundly. Caffeine can disturb your sleep, so avoid coffee, tea, or chocolate in the afternoon or evening.

Let me know if these suggestions helped you to be calmer and if you have an added suggestion, please email me at bruce@mindfulnessmode.com. I'll mention your suggestion on an upcoming episode.

Stay in the mode, Mindfulness Mode.