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Dr. Cheryl Fraser is known to be sharp, frank, and fearless. The Buddhist sex therapist, psychologist, author, and speaker is a rare combination of academic credibility, humor, straight talk, and life-changing advice. She has helped thousands of couples jumpstart their love life and create passion that lasts a lifetime. Listen to her wildly popular podcast Sex, Love & Elephants here or grab your copy of her book, Buddhas Bedroom: The Mindful Loving Path to Sexual Passion and Lifelong Intimacy. To take the first step towards resuscitating your relationship or learning more about Dr. Cheryl, visit her website or check out her videos on YouTube.
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- Website: www.drcherylfraser.com
- Book: Buddha's Bedroom – The Mindful Loving Path to Sexual Passion and Lifelong Intimacy
- Podcast: Sex Love & Elephants
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Effect on Emotions
- I could say, thanks to mindfulness and all those four-month meditation retreats 12 hours a day, I don't have negative emotions anymore. They have helped decrease negative emotions a little bit, but I have turbulent emotions. That's why I started meditating; I could not control the anxiety and the racing mind and then the grief and the pain.
- Meditation has helped me relate to the unpleasant emotion with more wisdom in seeing it back to that via surfboard or log,. I'm being tossed around by these turbulent emotions. But can I be a surfboard? Because I don't know how to stand on once will actually be the surfboard and say, ‘this is really painful'.
- There's tons of anxiety present or tons of anger or tons of sadness present and it hurts. But this too shall pass. And having developed some meditation skills over the years, I can now meditate in the midst of the anxiety and in a more lovingly detached way, watch the storm.
Thoughts on Breathing
- What helps me is ‘The three breath and hug'. Stand face to face, embrace deeply, breathe in for one slight beat at the top. Breathe out for one at the same time. And repeat twice. My hubby and I try to do it multiple times a day. It is a beautiful way to bring breath and all this esoteric teaching into an immediate way to connect. Let go and begin again.
Suggested Resources
- Book: Better Sex Through Mindfulness: How Women Can Cultivate Desire by Lori A. Brotto
- App: Insight Timer
Bullying Story
- I was a bullied kid. First of all, my parents sent me to the only good school in our neighborhood, which was a Catholic school, and I was the only non-Catholic. So all the other kids told me I was going to hell. And then, because I'm a great little monkey gifted with a very bright mind, after kindergarten, two months into grade one, they booted me up to grade two.
- I would sit alone on this swing set, swinging and crying and reading a book and with no friends. What I think, as someone who has been bullied, which is every single person listening, including if they were a perpetrator of bullying as a young person.
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7 days ago
Master Your Mindset, Scott Burgett
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Scott Burgett is the founder of Evolution Vegan Academy, an online coaching program that helps vegans lose up to 20 lbs in four months using his M3 Lifestyle System. Scott is a CSCS and Precision Nutrition Level 1 certified coach and has trained both professional and collegiate athletes. Living in Austin, Texas with his wife, dog, and son, Scott's mission is to help create vegan leaders in his community so they can spread their impact throughout generations.
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- Company: Evolution Vegan Academy
- Website: www.evolutionveganacademy.com
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Most Influential Person
- Michael Chu, business mentor
Effect on Emotions
- Mindfulness has helped me become more in control of my emotions because I'm more aware and intentional about the decisions that I make. So instead of running on autopilot most of the time, I run on intentional autopilot. Most of the time, it just helps me make better decisions.
Thoughts on Breathing
- Through meditation and through just centering myself, learning how to control and get present with my breath has been one of the most beneficial things for me to just calm down.
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Monday Jan 30, 2023
Wisdom From The Sea; Anne Gordon
Monday Jan 30, 2023
Monday Jan 30, 2023
Anne Gordon is a certified Dolphin Energy Healing practitioner who loves to share the powerful healing energy, insights, wisdom, and messages the dolphins have for her clients. Dolphins and Whales are a powerful presence in her life, bringing her peace, confidence, and a strong sense of unity and community. Anne has spent her entire life in the presence of Dolphins and Whales as she grew up watching Orca whales while boating and living in the Pacific NW. She has been hosting Whale and Dolphin Wisdom Retreats internationally since 2007. Her transformational retreats share the wisdom of the dolphins and whales in locations such as Bimini, Hawaii, Mexico, and French Polynesia. Retreat guests deepen their spiritual connection with the natural world. Anne has recently completed her much anticipated Wisdom Of The Sea card deck.
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- Website: www.whalewisdomretreats.com
- Free Gift For Mindful Tribe: www.dolphinspiritguide.com
A Most Mindful Creature
- When you are in the presence of a dolphin or whale, it is literally impossible to think about anything else. You are in that present moment.
- If you're on a boat, and there are dolphins right in front of the boat surfing, righting the bow waves, looking and turning to look up at you, and making eye contact, that is a most mindful experience.
Wisdom From The Sea Oracle Deck.
- Anne: I have a brand new Oracle Card Deck called Wisdom From The Sea. I have been trained as a certified Dolphin Energy Healer. It's like any other kind of energetic healing like Reiki. I consciously ask the dolphins and the whales to send their powerful healing energy through me.
- I'm somebody who is not sensitive to energy. I can't see it or feel it. Some people can see auras, but not me. What I do get is, in my mind, it's like watching a mind movie that the dolphins and whales send me, a series of images and messages for my client. Oracle card decks are great if you have a challenge, a question, or if you just want some guidance.
Swimming With Whales
- When we swim with whales, we're not swimming, we're floating, and they're swimming around us. There's nothing we can do to keep up with a whale when it wants to swim.
- Usually we'll find a mom and a calf and Mom will go down and just rest. But baby has to come up more often for air than mom does. So when baby comes up for air, sometimes it'll come take a look at us and they'll wonder, ‘what are you guys doing here?'
- We met a baby and that was amazing. Now we're not allowed to touch the wild whales, right? Well, this little baby did not read that memo and it literally came to every single one of us and touched us and reached out. He literally reached out his pectoral fin to me and it was inches from my face. And I just gently laid my hand on its pectoral fin. And she went inches from a number of my group. Everybody in my group touched this baby whale or the baby whale touch them. It was the most amazing experience.
Words of Wisdom
- “I'm seeing in my mind's eye, this beautiful eye of a whale that's looking directly at you and just beaming you so much love and to let you know that you are loved, you are not alone, and the whales and dolphins are here to support you and guide you. All you have to do is ask”.
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Thursday Jan 26, 2023
The Best Way Out Is Always Through; Joze Piranian
Thursday Jan 26, 2023
Thursday Jan 26, 2023
Joze Piranian is a lifelong stutterer turned Forbes and TED-featured Global Speaker on Resilience & Inclusion. Born and raised in Lebanon, Joze avoided speaking for more than 25 years out of fear of being judged for being different. Then, everything changed. He won the Inspirational Speaker of the Year, delivered 5 TEDx talks, and performed stand-up comedy on 3 continents and in 4 languages. Joze has since given talks at the United Nations Google, Tesla, Dell, TikTok, Deloitte, and BCG. With more than 3 000 000 views on Goalcast, Joze has also been featured in ABC, NowThis, Some Good News, and CBC.
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- Website: www.jozepiranian.com
- Linkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/in/jozepiranian/
- IG: @YesWayJoze
Most Influential Person
Effect on Emotions
- More mindfulness has allowed me to press the pause button and create space for myself between the stimulus and the response.
Thoughts on Breathing
- I use a breathing technique to control my stutter. On the other hand, I also practice different types of breathwork whether it is Wim Hof or conscious, connected breathing. In fact, I'll have to connect you with John Mensa who was a fantastic breathwork teacher. And, of course, traditional mindfulness meditation also incorporates a lot of mindful breathing.
Suggested Resources
- Book: The Untethered Soul: The Journey Beyond Yourself by Michael A. Singer
- App: Calm
- App: Nike Running App (Combining mindfulness with running)
Bullying Story
- I wish mindfulness had been taught when I was in school. It would have made an enormous difference because I've lost count of the number of times I would go back home to my room, just feeling absolutely awful about what had happened at school. I felt belittled and I felt so small.
- So the way that mindfulness would have had a tremendous impact is by reminding me that I am not the feelings I'm having. I'm not the thoughts that I'm having. The mere fact that these are entities that I am having implies separation between the ‘I', and what is being felt and being experienced. Having that healthy ability to observe rather than identify and react would indeed have allowed me to feel what I needed to feel in a healthier way, as opposed to going for avoidance as my MO.
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Motivating The Unmotivated; Life Pulse Inc Founder, Matt Granados
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Monday Jan 23, 2023
The Profit of Kindness; Jill Lublin
Monday Jan 23, 2023
Monday Jan 23, 2023
Jill Lublin is an international speaker on the topics of Publicity, Networking, Kindness, and Referrals. She is the author of 4 Best Selling books including Get Noticed…Get Referrals (McGraw Hill) and co-author of Guerrilla Publicity and Networking Magic. Her latest book, Profit of Kindness went #1 in four categories. Jill is a master strategist on how to position your business for more profitability and more visibility in the marketplace. She is CEO of a strategic consulting firm and has over 25 years of experience working with over 100,000 people plus national and international media. Jill teaches a virtual Publicity Crash Course, and consults and speaks all over the world. She has spoken on many stages with luminaries such as Tony Robbins. Jill also leads an intentional kindness community. Visit publicitycrashcourse.com/freegift and jilllublin.com
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- Website: www.jilllublin.com
- Podcast: The Jill Lublin Show
- Book: The Profit of Kindness: How to Influence Others, Establish Trust, and Build Lasting Business Relationships
- Book: Get Noticed… Get Referrals: Build Your Client Base and Your Business by Making a Name For Yourself
Most Influential Person
Effect on Emotions
- Mindfulness helps contain my emotions, helps manage them, and keeps them more even.
Thoughts on Breathing
- I noticed if I start feeling anxious or something scares me, I'll take four breaths in and four breaths out. The other thing that helps me is to take a breath in and then exhale, as long as I can.
Suggested Resources
- Book: The Untethered Soul: The Journey Beyond Yourself by Michael Singer
- Book: The Profit of Kindness: How to Influence Others, Establish Trust, and Build Lasting Business Relationships by Jill Lublin
- Book: Get Noticed… Get Referrals: Build Your Client Base and Your Business by Making a Name For Yourself by Jill Lublin
- App: Calm
- App: Soaak
Bullying Story
- I remember being bullied all through being a kid and I think part of it is because of my curly hair. That was the style then I had freckles I had these ugly glasses; just things that were not helping me be at my best.
- I remember kids saying mean things about my brother's name, Jack. So, Jack and Jill; I heard all kinds of versions of the nursery rhyme.
- I had a definite incident of inappropriate sexual contact. And that was really upsetting, where I felt like I couldn't even go to school like I'd be looked at.
- I had my share of feeling bullied, feeling insecure, feeling threatened. I think in my life, there have been many moments of feeling bullied, feeling insecure, feeling unsafe, feeling taunted, feeling teased, which might be slightly different than being taunted.
- The point is, part of children's messiness is a certain meanness. Now, here's my hope and excitement for the future and the present; I believe fully that children now are much more conscious and more mindful.
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Thursday Jan 19, 2023
Releasing Dis-ease With Awareness; Ann Hince
Thursday Jan 19, 2023
Thursday Jan 19, 2023
Ann Hince is a professional speaker, author & spiritual teacher. Ann can show the way from Inner Turmoil to Inner Peace. In the process, as dis-ease is released, our bodies can move more into alignment.
When Ann was 19, she woke one morning to find her mother dead in her bathroom. Twenty years later, the tears from that trauma were still just under the surface. Ann found a simple technique that helped her release these emotions – but she went further and can now put her awareness inside her body – and has changed the bone structure of her skull and grown ½ an inch at age 55. Ann has found that seeking out our truth, what we truly feel, and accepting those feelings, is the key to inner peace.
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Most Influential Person
Effect on Emotions
- I now notice my emotions and don't get caught in them. Most of us get caught up in our emotions. Now I can stand back and say, okay, okay, look at me; I'm getting frustrated, I'm getting angry, or I can feel that physical aspect of the emotion deep inside. So it's very different than what it used to be.
Thoughts on Breathing
- I wouldn't call them techniques, more tools, breathe breath is definitely part of what happens along this journey. With feeling the feelings, they will hold my breath, while I'm feeling that tension, because I believe it's kind of been stored in that part of the breath where I can feel the tension. And when it releases, there is a huge intake of breath, which I believe is almost like the soul seating a little bit further into the body and becoming a little bit more grounded. And I do use it.
- That's another thing I do if I find tension inside and the connective tissue which is too tight; I can't release it with focused attention. Then I will blow through it. They will blow slowly through my mouth, imagining that I'm blowing through that tension in the connective tissue and it will help it release.
Suggested Resources
- Book: A Pathway to Insight: Re-capture your childhood buzz by Ann Hince
- Book: The Untethered Soul: The Journey Beyond Yourself by Michael Singer
- Book: Letting Go: The Pathway of Surrender by David Hawkins
Bullying Story
- The boy that was bullying me, I just hate what he did. I just hate it. I hate it. I hate it. I hate it. I hate it, I would have got that energy out of me so that I became peaceful inside. Because I believe we're a signal.
- So if I had held that energy inside of me, that frustration, that annoyance, that disgust with them; that's part of my signal. And I would have attracted again, and again and again. And I did, it went on for two years. And if I had brought myself back to peace each night, then I believe over time, the bullying would have stopped because I would have been a different signal.
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Monday Jan 16, 2023
Frugality Isn’t Another F-Word; Jen Smith and Jill Sirianni
Monday Jan 16, 2023
Monday Jan 16, 2023
Jen Smith & Jill Sirianni are co-hosts of the top-rated Frugal Friends Podcast. With over 200 episodes and more than 2.5 million downloads, Frugal Friends is changing the way the world thinks about frugality. Jen uses her background in financial journalism to seek topics that help people overcome impulse spending and reach their financial goals. Jill is a licensed clinical social worker who dissects the source of behaviors that cause trauma with money. Together they’re helping people become better stewards of their money, time, space, and natural resources.
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- Website: www.frugalfriendspodcast.com
- Podcast: Frugal Friends Podcast
- Book: The No-Spend Challenge Guide: How to Stop Spending Money Impulsively, Pay off Debt Fast, & Make Your Finances Fit Your Dreams
- Book: Meal Planning on a Budget: Save Money on Groceries, Master Meal Prep, & Reduce Food Waste to Reach Financial Freedom
Most Influential Person
- Her grandmother
Effect on Emotions
- Mindfulness has definitely helped me keep a broad perspective and grace for all kinds of people and all kinds of ways of thinking. Because when you are so wrapped up in yourself, it's hard to live outside of that bubble. But when you can take the time to be mindful, you open yourself up to other points of view.
Thoughts on Breathing
- I have to live every day to breathe. I think, especially with the background I have, the clients that I care for something like breathing, and grounding techniques, something that can be implemented wherever we are. We don't have to have special tools or a tool belt to be able to implement an effective coping strategy and breathing we carry with us everywhere we go.
- And so whether it's a stressful situation or a financial decision I'm making in the store, when I need to be present in the moment, I ground myself. Oftentimes, deep breathing techniques are what I go to at that moment to help gain clarity.
Suggested Resources
- Book: I Will Teach You to Be Rich: The Journal: No Complicated Math. No More Procrastinating. Design Your Rich Life Today.
- App: Calm
Bullying Story
- I think as the frugality podcast in the personal finance world, we can definitely get picked on because it's much sexier to talk about investing and side hustling and entrepreneurship. And many people dump on frugality, because of its correlation to a scarcity mindset.
- I definitely like my life's work and my passion for helping bullied people. But we have to understand that everybody is in their own place and on their own journey. You have to realize that frugality is for everyone, but you have to be in a place for it.
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Thursday Jan 12, 2023
Be The Leader They Want To Follow; Tressa Yonekawa Bundren
Thursday Jan 12, 2023
Thursday Jan 12, 2023
Tressa Yonekawa Bundren will disrupt your life in the best ways. She is an award-winning mindset, leadership, and relationship keynote speaker and facilitator. Her university degrees and lifelong interests have led to over twenty years of specializing in expanding and elevating neuro-cognitive leadership behavior and connection skills for critical relationship dynamics. She is a multi-million dollar medical staffing corporation founder and leadership consultancy co-founder, mom of girls from the foster-adoption system, autism services specialist, and international author. You can reach her at TressaSpeaks.com
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- Website: TressaSpeaks.com
- Book: Listen Leader: How To Be The Leader We Want To Follow (Upcoming this Spring 2023)
Most Influential Person
Effect on Emotions
- I have choices every single day that I get to make, in better ways, because I get present. Am I ever triggered? But far less often, and in far less, like harmful, self-harmful, and otherwise harmful ways in the world?
Thoughts on Breathing
- Let's all just take a breath together. What difference does it make in our lives in the world? It can change everything. When I've been in an argument with my partner, one thing that he's done that has been profound is he'll just stop and open his palms toward me and say, I just love you. And it's hard to scream into that void of love and calm and breath.
Suggested Resources
- App: Calm
Bullying Story
- The instance that I remember so vividly of being bullied as a child was riding the bus home, and there was an older boy who just always was alone. And he would like to throw things at those of us who were younger and kind of push us over and tell us to get out of the seat, that that was his seat. And he lived out close to me. So we would drop him off first and then head to my house. And one day, like, I could just see that he was sad.
- And I was like, are you okay? And not, not from a place of being in his face, but just like, I'm concerned about you. Are you okay? And he stopped. And he never bullied anybody on that bus. Again. He didn't say a word.
- That's the power and I learned really young that, that if we can be compassionate, does it always work? No. But does it work? A lot of times, if somebody doesn't feel that they're like onstage or trying to save face, or, you know, that kind of thing, if we can just have that moment of connection, it makes us both human. It lets that person know that we see them.
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Monday Jan 09, 2023
The Mindfulness Of Learning
Monday Jan 09, 2023
Monday Jan 09, 2023
Learning and mindfulness are closely related. Some of the benefits of learning new skills and new ideas are: it gives you motivation, helps beat boredom, boosts confidence, keeps you healthy, helps you be flexible, can benefit others, and learning can boost your happiness levels.
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Here are 7 Ways Learning New Skills or New Concepts Can Help You:
1/ Learning Feels Good
Wordle and similar puzzles have become incredibly popular. This is because we enjoy learning and love the rush of adrenaline when we succeed at solving a puzzle or accomplishing a challenging task. Allow yourself to enjoy these kinds of winning experiences. The good feeling can be shared when we get together and play games with family and friends. There are more and more games being created every year, and they can help us satisfy a particular human need. Three new games came into our home this Christmas, and every one of them contributed to this feeling of pleasure as I learned how to play them with my family and friends.
2/ Creates New Neuropathways
When you are learning something new, does it feel like your brain is using extra resources? Do you feel as though your brain is using more energy than normal? That feeling is what results from new neuropathways being carved out in your brain. We’ve been hearing about this concept for quite a while now, and you can test it out for yourself by learning a new skill, a game, or solving challenging puzzles. Pay particular attention to how your brain feels as you are learning this new material. I think you’ll agree, it’s important to give your brain new challenges every day.
3/ A New Perspective On Life
When I was 37 years old, I decided I wanted to learn downhill skiing. This was a skill I had always admired, and now I was determined to be a downhill skier myself. Not only was this an exciting venture, but it definitely gave me a new perspective on life. Standing at the top of a long, steep hill, and looking down at the valley where I would be skiing, gave me a completely new perspective on life. As I became better at skiing, I was aware that I began to feel different about my life. I felt more confident and more accomplished. This feeling drifted over to other aspects of my life as well. I was having more fun and had more to look forward to as I planned future skiing trips and even short skiing adventures.
4/ Staves Off Senility
I believe that keeping your mind active and robust is one way to help stave off senility. My great-grandmother and my grandfather both lived well into their 90s, and I can remember my grandfather always making an effort to learn new things, he had a great sense of humor and was always conversing with nurses, support workers, and visitors after he moved to a nursing home. I frequently played favorite songs for him on my accordion, and he was always eager to learn all about what was happening in my life. He was curious and was constantly learning new things.
5/ Creates A Winning Mindset
Being a lifetime learner can help you live with a winning mindset. Everything is perspective. Some people find it easy to focus on the negative and be immersed in a lot of bad news. It’s one thing to be a realist and be aware of what’s happening in the world, but when you focus too much on the negative, it can take over your outlook. Having a doomsday outlook doesn’t feel good for most of us. I’d prefer to choose to learn new skills and fresh ideas every day because I believe that contributes to a winning mindset.
6/ Helps Combat Depression
If you are suffering from depression, please see a professional. My mention of depression here is not referring to clinical depression, but instead that state where you feel down, discouraged, and you generally lack motivation. For me, there is nothing better than setting out to learn a new skill when I’m feeling down. Sometimes I have to give myself a huge push to make it happen, but once I do, I feel a lot better and am happy that I gave myself that necessary shove in order to move into a better place. I’m well aware that sometimes it feels impossible to do what I’m describing, but hang in there. Keep moving forward. Listen to podcasts, read books, learn crafts or how to cook a new recipe, or even write a journal entry. These are only a few examples of how to use learning and mindfulness as a way to stay on top of things and move forward.
7/ Increases Connections To Others
I notice that when I get discouraged, I feel like I want to crawl into a hole and hide. I have to fight that urge and force myself to get out and be with people. At the same time, learning new skills gets me motivated to reach out to others. As a result, I feel more upbeat, and my life is more satisfying. How about you? Is this true for you? I’d like to hear from you as to whether you believe that learning new skills increases your connections to others. I’ve found this to be true when I travel to conferences, and not only am I learning new information, but I get excited about meeting all kinds of new people. Send me an email at bruce@mindfulnessmode.com – Let me know if you believe that learning new skills increases your connections to others. I’d love to have you share some examples that I can mention on the show.
Suggested Resources
- Book: Bernstein: A Biography by Gebundene Ausgabe
- Book: The Art of Learning: An Inner Journey to Optimal Performance by Josh Waitzkin
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Thursday Jan 05, 2023
The Upside of Downsizing; Matt Paxton
Thursday Jan 05, 2023
Thursday Jan 05, 2023
Matt Paxton is one of the top downsizing and decluttering experts in the country. He is the host of the 2-time Emmy nominated series Legacy List with Matt Paxton on PBS and was a featured cleaner on the hit television show HOARDERS for 15 seasons. Matt is also the author of the best-selling book, Keep the Memories, Lose the Stuff. Paxton started cleaning out houses after his father, step-father and both grandfathers died in the same year, and this is the reason Matt has been working with families struggling with hoarding and downsizing for 20 years. Matt appears regularly as a public speaker, television guest, and radio personality helping families and companies find the upside of downsizing. He lives in Atlanta, GA with his wife and 7 kids. Yes, 7 children.
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Contact Info
- Website: www.MyLegacyList.com
- Book: Keep the Memories, Lose the Stuff: Declutter, Downsize, and Move Forward with Your Life by Matt Paxton
Most Influential Person
- His Dad
Effect on Emotions
- Compassion, it's all about compassion. It's all I just see the other side now.
Thoughts on Breathing
- Getting my sons to breathe well is important. When they get upset, just deep, deep breathing and slow down. Pause. Deep breathing.
- I say, stop, and I put the horse blinders on. We take them to the other room, and I pull them out of the situation because we have nine people now, and we get a very quiet space. And I look at them as they look me in the eye. Deep breaths and it just brings it down quickly without elevation.
Suggested Resources
- Book: Keep the Memories, Lose the Stuff: Declutter, Downsize, and Move Forward with Your Life By Matt Paxton
- App: Calm
Bullying Story
- I have seven kids. So bullying is a big issue for me. Take it with hoarders, too. A lot of my hoarders are made fun of constantly. I was on a TV show that put a mental health disorder on television. There's an ethical dilemma right there from the beginning. And so when I tell a reminder, guys, we gave everybody therapy, we would give them a year of therapy on the back end. And if the TV show didn't pay for that therapy, I don't think it would be an ethical show, honestly.
- And so why I'm saying this for the bullying question is what hoarding did for me was it really forced me, at an extreme level, to be super compassionate and understand why the person behaves the way they do. There's always a reason someone behaves the way they behave.
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