316 It’s About Giving Says Conscious Millionaire JV Crum III

April 26, 2018

JV Crum the III is a speaker, a coach and the best-selling author of Conscious Millionaire, the book that’s changed thousands of peoples’ lives. It can impact you too by helping you learn how to consciously grow your business and transform your life. JV is the man who has personally built businesses and is now the host of three podcasts under the branding of Conscious Millionaire.

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Bruce: Would you explain the mindfulness of money, JV?

JV: I think there are multiple pieces to it. Every client I work with, because I work with clients who are typically high achievers and now they want to go to a new level and one of the things, because I work with a lot of coaches, that's my primary market, but I also work with seven figure service businesses that want to add at least another million in the next 12 months.

I only work with people who really have high goals and even though they have the high goals, nobody ever ends up on the phone with me or on a zoom or anything or even on the show usually without really having a deep desire to help people. But there's something I've identified called the money purpose wound. That's the name I gave to it because they're purpose driven, but a lot of times they have conflicts about making more money.

Along the way they've picked up ideas like, I got these gifts for free so I have to go out and give them to people for free. Here's an important distinction between, are we coaches and entrepreneurs, are we really in the business of saving people, which is where that kind of wounded mindset and poverty mindset and I've got to go save them and it's wrong to charge them, or are we in the business of empowering them and selecting to work with people that we resonate with, whoever that group is, but we're here to empower them and when we make that distinction, we come to a new set of decisions and those decisions are, it's not our responsibility to decide if somebody wants or is ready to be empowered.

It's our responsibility to empower them if that's what they want and once we let go of we have to go save people and convince them, right? We have to convince them that they want to do something more with their life. That's a losing journey. And I know because I used to be in that business, right? I used to believe that I used to help people where I believed in them a hundred and ten percent, but they were acting at fifty percent and I thought if I just kept believing in them at a hundred and ten percent, finally they'd get the spark.

But you know what? I've come to a conclusion. People self choose whether they connect with the spark, it's our job then to empower them because they want to move forward. It's not our job to try to convince them they're ready when for whatever reason, and there could be so many different reasons. Their soul is not at that place at that moment. You've got to let them choose to be there.

Bruce: So what's the biggest reason that people have these money blocks?

JV: Well, you know, it's interesting because I can't even tell you what the seven are, and I'm not even embarrassed about that. In my book there's a chapter on abundance mindset and I came up with seven areas of limiting beliefs. I can't even tell you what six of them are because from working with so many clients, I found they all had the same one and here it is, but different people are gonna say it one of two ways.

Either they've got issues around I don't deserve or they call it I am not worthy and everybody resonates with one of those words more than the other. And when you work with that piece, it's like a linchpin. When you deal with that piece then all of a sudden all this other stuff starts dissolving and they start moving forward.

But you've got to address that. And it's not a one time thing because we have levels. Once you get to, let's say you're at one level, but now you want to double to another level, you've got to go through this process again. You know, I'm looking on and going, well, you know Berkshire-Hathaway. He used to be the richest guy in the world, but right now it's Amazon, right? So and he's at a hundred billion and in our lifetime we're going to be all here when there's the first trillionaire. Just a few years ago we thought fifty billion was a whole lot of money. Now we're for the first time at a hundred billion and it's really mindset. Now they're going to do different activities.

They're going to leverage higher. They're going to be in a position to leverage and leverage and leverage because that's how you really build wealth, but it's having the mindset and thinking about your life and your business and money differently and asking different questions that get you to that next level. Everybody has to go through this kind of, I deserve, and at some point you'll have gotten through that. But for most people, if you're not yet at ten million, I think you're still going through that and you may still be going through it if you're not yet at a hundred million because we just have different layers inside of us.

You help people get to their first seven figures. You know, that's the majority of the work I do because I know when I got there I was 25 and all of a sudden I could buy a four story brand new four-story home on the water, have a Mercedes, go to Europe, you know, that was now my playground and I grew up in a little town with two or three hundred people.

When you ask how poor were we? Imagine this. We had an eight party line and what that means is there were eight homes that shared the same single line. And when you wanted to use the phone, you'd have to say, Delores, would you mind getting off the phone? I need to make a phone call. You'd have to bargain with your neighbors on the phone line and there'd always be the little old lady who listened to everybody's calls. Nobody could afford to have their own line when I was growing up in the little town I lived in.

Bruce: Did you have your bathroom in your house?

JV: We did, but we actually called it a one holer. That was the country term for that. I think we all know what that is. You have one bathroom and everybody's got to share it. And we didn't even have central heat or anything. We had one floor furnace and it would be cold in the winter and everybody took their tern getting the floor furnace area to get dressed. So to get there at twenty-five really was a big deal, but I know what difference it makes for people, how it frees them up, how they can take care of their family, give to causes, have the freedom to all of a sudden live differently. And then I like to take people who are at seven figures and help them start adding more layers of millions on to really empower them to go out and create a bigger wave.

Bruce: You talk about passion, purpose, and values in your book. And I know you're all about that. You don't just talk about it, you live it. Share with us about the mindfulness behind that.

JV: Well, I think that all of us are on this planet for a specific reason that's unique to each one of us. And I was just actually having this conversation I think yesterday or the day before. I like all these hard finance pieces, but I really love working with people to discover that and I just seem to have a talent for it and I don't typically bring it up. But with almost every client we end up going through that process that when we discover, I call it your gold coin, think of it this way. Your purpose is written on one side, but when I was looking for my purpose, which was about 20 years ago, I sold companies because it was making money, but I was not happy. I didn't feel fulfilled. I didn't think I was doing what I was here to do.

I read a lot on purpose. I found most of it useless. It made me feel good, but it would say things like, when you find your purpose, you'll know it. And I said, well, I'd kind of already figured that part out. I want to know how to find it. Here's the answer folks, I'm going to give it to you because I want you to have it. On the other side of the coin is the secret for finding it and it's what's the difference you want to make for someone or something outside of yourself? It's not about you, it's about giving, it's about making a difference.

And when you focus on that and you start journaling, I'm a big journaler, so journal on that and you'll find several things might come up that something's going to resonate and then ask, well, who do I want to do this for? You know is it coaches, consultants? Is it bigger companies? Is it moms who have kids? Is it animals? Is it the planet in general? My purpose is, I want everybody to have clean water and that means we stop polluting the water. So that's really how you discover that purpose. That becomes the driver of your business. It becomes the driver of your life and that determines what conferences you go to, who you decide to hang out with, who you have relationships with, who you're friends with. Because all my friends are people who want to make a positive impact on the world, right? I just don't hang out with anybody else because I want us to all help each other to achieve that outcome and make our mark on the world and makes this a better world for everybody.

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315 Find Bigger Love with Relationship Coaches Patrick and Sam Cullinane

April 23, 2018

Patrick and Sam Cullinane are relationship experts; expertise which has resulted from their experiences as they moved through the ups and downs of the rocky marriage they endured with each other. The first decade of their 20-year marriage ended with a twelve-month separation and signed divorce papers. The second decade was an invigorating climb back up the mountain which can be described as refreshed love and intimacy leading to newfound closeness and personal growth. Their challenges and discoveries are shared in an easy-to-follow, authentic format in their recent book called, Bigger Love: How to Have the Love of Your Life for the rest of Your Life.  Patrick and Sam now teach their own proven methods to other couples who yearn for over-the-top relationships.

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  • Patrick: Sam Cullinane
  • Sam: Julianna Raye of Unified Mindfulness

Effect on Emotions

  • Sam: Well, mindfulness allows me to understand what I'm feeling to begin with because I think a lot of times I just let, I realized now that I've let my emotions sort of push me around in my life. Now I recognize I'm not my emotions. They are something that happens to me. So those recognitions have changed my life entirely.
  • Patrick: The feelings are real, but how you choose to react to the feelings, that's what you have control over. So the emotion is typically your choice in reaction or your body's physical reaction to the feelings.

Thoughts on Breathing

  • Patrick: Well, that's interesting because we spent a day with a Peruvian Shaman last year who talked to us about breathing and ever since he was talking to us about it, I see it. I'm like, oh my God, somebody told us about this last year and so he was talking to us about this now and so you know how the universe conspires to put things in front of you once you figure it out. Um, but yeah, we will use just taking a normal breath in a day where we're doing what, 28 percent capacity of our lungs and feeding your body. And so just just forcing yourself to breathe when I feel any stress or laying there having trouble sleeping or any of that, I just breathe. I try to maximize my lung capacity, hold it for a little bit, oxygenate my body and then breath out. Then I have to do that, focus on my breathing when I meditate.
  • Sam: It's amazing, but as soon as I take my mind to my breath, I'm in the moment. It's immediate. So I love to use that in meditation. I use it if I get frustrated, I focus on the breath. Breath is instrumental in my life and my mindfulness practice.

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Bullying Story

  • Patrick: Sam brought up the fact that she thinks the biggest bully she sees is me bullying myself. Do you know what I mean? My dialogue of beating myself up and that kind of thing. So yeah, absolutely. not doing it. It's, it's part of the love yourself thing.
  • I recognize that I have a tendency to, to beat myself up a little bit or self deprecate, you know, do those types of things. And so I try not to bully myself by being mindful and loving myself and forgiveness. Self-Forgiveness is the key to all that. It's like, OK, I screwed up and I'm over it.
  • Sam: I do have a bullying story. I guess I don't know if mindfulness would have helped or not. So I grew up in Salt Lake City when I went to elementary school in Salt Lake City and then we started moving. It's primarily Mormon community and I'm not Mormon.
  • I was raised sort of Episcopalian and I think when, I can't remember how old they are when they get baptized, but it's older, it's like third or fourth grade, I want to say they're eight. So at age eight they get baptized and I think that's when they start to recognize that they're in this religion and it becomes very important to them as they learn all the stuff that they have to learn.
  • A lot of the kids weren't allowed to play with me because I wasn't lbs. There's one instance where this kid just was so mean and that was in front of a large group of kids and he was like, what religion are you again? And I was like, I'm Episcopalian. And he said, a pissa what? You know, you're going to hell, right? And I was like, what? [I said to my] mom, I'm going to hell. So that was very damaging, right?
  • It took a while to figure out how to deal with it. Like understanding different religions, why cultures clash and why war happens and all the bad things. But the interesting thing about that story is that later I was in college at the University of Utah and I saw that kid. I recognized him immediately and he was drunker than shit. He was hammered drunk, which of course is very against the Mormon religion. They're not allowed to drink or smoke or swear or anything.
  • And I [thought] what a hypocrite, you know, but it turned out that he was actually homosexual, which is also very against the Mormon religion. And I think that once I figured that out about him, I recognized that a lot of people who bully are people that are hurting.
  • They hurt others because they're hurting themselves. So he probably knew when he was eight. I mean, most of the homosexuals that I know, know early on that they're not like everybody else and that they have different attractions. He probably knew that.
  • And so he probably was hurting, confused and conflicted and lashed out at me because people that are hurting hurt others. So I think that was an interesting Aha moment for me.
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314 Find Meaning In Something Larger Than I; Adventurer Rob Harsh

April 19, 2018

Rob Harsh is all about adventure. In fact, he even created an Adventure company where he takes people on mountain treks, multi-sport expeditions, caving, kayaking adventures and other high-risk nature trips. Rob believes the best way to face adversity is to surrender yourself to whatever is there. That's what he did when he faced stage four lung cancer and was given a four percent chance of survival. Rob transforms people's lives by sharing his extensive proven survival skills to lead people to win in business and to win in life.

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Most Influential Person

  • My meditation teacher.

Effect on Emotions

  • Mindfulness has helped me to see beyond my emotions. I think the fallacy is that we are our thoughts. We are our emotions, but we are really so much more than that.
  • When we can separate ourselves from our thoughts and our emotions and see beyond them and step into this larger being that we are, we find a more calm.
  • We find more fulfillment and we find more happiness in life. It's not that those thoughts and emotions ever stop, but we begin to see them in a different way.

Thoughts on Breathing

  • Breathing is quintessential. We never stop breathing. For me, it's been an important aspect and an important focus with my lung cancer.
  • Also as an athlete and a runner, I've practiced breathing throughout my life.
  • Simply focusing on the breath and connecting deeper within yourself is a powerful practice that helps one really get through a lot of anxiety, fear and self doubt in your life.

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Bullying Story

  • Let's go do the Eco Challenge", which was a very famous race back at the time. And, he looked at me and said, "Well, I don't know if you're quite ready for that."
  • I said, "OK, well thanks. I'm going to go do the eco-challenge." And I just decided that that's what I was going to do.
  • So it's interesting. I think that this idea of bullying for me personally isn't necessarily a bad thing. I think there's a silver lining to it in a way where it drove me towards excellence.
  • I guess that experience that I had in Nepal, in the Himalayan summit where I was being teased and bullied in a way, just drove me to prove them wrong. That I wasn't the person that they thought I was.
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313 Let Life Flow Like The Seasons Says Krysti Turznik

April 16, 2018

Krysti Turznik is a speaker, author, and life coach and even studied to become an ordained minister. She has a Masters Degree in Metaphysics, Bachelor of Science Degrees in Biology and is a consulting hypnotist. She has extensive experience helping brilliant people get out of their own way and live the life they were truly meant to live. Through mindset, motivation, and meditation she shows them how to create a life of miracles and magic where every day feels like a day at the beach. Krysti lives in Wisconsin with her husband, daughter, and four cats.

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Most Influential Person

  • Dr. Wayne Dyer

Effect on Emotions

  • My emotions have had a significant impact because they helped me to really tune into who it is that I am in every moment.
  • When I am having an experience, when I'm having an emotion, I can check in and say, is this the kind of person that I want? Is my behavior in alignment with how I want the world to experience me?

Thoughts on Breathing

  • Whenever I feel like I am out of sorts, I return to breath. So I just focus on taking three deep breaths, slow and easy, and it helps me to really center myself and make choices from that point.

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Bullying Story

  • I was fortunate that I personally didn't experience much of that.
  • I do have an experience that my daughter had gone through about two years ago. She was being bullied at school by a special needs student.
  • There was nothing that we could do from the other child's perspective, so I worked a lot with my daughter and really helped her to understand that the things that were being said and the actions that were being taken really had nothing to do with her. It was just things that the other child needed to do.
  • So we talked a lot about when something negative happens to you, how you can really take that as an opportunity to look at yourself and make sure that your behavior is what you want to accomplish and then see how you can maybe change some things so that you're in a better environment or so that situation doesn't take place again.
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312 Understand Your Emotions With Morning Coach JB Glossinger

April 12, 2018

JB Glossinger is host and creator of The Morning Coach; a successful podcast that's been downloaded over 22 million times. JB is a speaker, a coach and an author. He holds advanced degrees in business and metaphysics. His degrees provide great credibility but JB says his street education is what has delivered the best life-changing lessons. He's talking about black eyes, being near bankruptcy and more. JB is the author of The Sacred Six: The Simple Step By Step Process For Focusing Your Attention and Recovering Your Dreams.

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Most Influential Person

  • Eckhart Tolle (Author of The Power of Now)

Effect on Emotions

  • It's huge. I wish I could stay in it more. You know, I wish I could be more mindful.
  • I don't believe in emotional control. I believe in emotional command, which means you just understand it.
  • Viktor Frankl, who was in a concentration camp as a psychologist, said, you know, suffering stops being suffering when you understand it.

Thoughts on Breathing

  • Breathing's big. I mean, if you start to understand the fundamentals of meditation, a lot of people don't know how to do it, really if you just focus on your breath.
  • Just concentrating on the breathing in and out is probably the most basic form of meditation that brings you mindfulness.

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Bullying Story

  • I actually am very blessed and that I got along with everybody. I never really had any issues.
  • I got along, back in the day when we were going to school. We had stoners, we called them hoods and jocks and I wasn't any of that. I was a nerd that played sports and listened to death metal, so I never really got bullied because I got on. I got along with the nerds because I loved computers. We had the old apples and I would play dungeons, dragons with them.
  • Then I'd go play football and basketball with the jocks and then I would go hang out with the nerds and smoke a cigarette and listen to metallica.
  • So I got along with everybody. I never really had an issue with that and I'm very blessed because I know that's a big issue for a lot of people.
  • I think if you can learn from me being diverse and not getting involved in just one particular click.
  • I think it helps anybody that's being bullied, just try to understand where other people come from instead of seeing them and judging them because they listened to some death metal. Get to know them, you know, and the nerds.
  • People are people and I think that's what stopped me from ever being bullied because I had people in all the circles that I got along with.
  • Bullying in business - Business is an odd thing because you know, when I first started, when I went from free to paid in 2009, it was brutal.
  • I had people say, JB, you're a jerk. I mean you can look at the reviews. There's 53 negative reviews still on itunes about how bad I was. I can't believe you're trying to make money at this. You know, and I'm like, God, I did this for two years and it hurt me. I mean, I cried.
  • It was devastating that day. I mean people were hateful, but what I learned is that I had 12,000 people in a website and 10 percent of them came with me, twelve hundred of them.
  • There's an old song says, love the one you're with. That's when I realized I can't please everybody, and I don't want the people I can't please.
  • I'm going to build my business around those people that love me and work with me.
  • And honestly I had trouble back in the day when I was free because you were still getting everybody.
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311 Become The Steward Of Your Emotional Dragon; Mellissa Seaman

April 9, 2018

Mellissa Seaman is a Stanford educated lawyer turned intuitive business Strategist. She's the creator of Soul Gift Quiz which has helped thousands of people worldwide discover their deepest gift; to align with life fulfillment and business success. Fortune 100 executives hire her to help them become channels of genius to create products in the world in collaboration with the highest power to make sure they create things that matter.

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Most Influential Person

  • My daughter Clarice

Effect on Emotions

  • Mindfulness makes my emotions possible to live with. My emotions are big. I'm an emotional type. My emotions hold a lot of charge and a lot of intelligence.
  • Without mindfulness, my emotions feel like a crazy dragon ready to consume me. And with mindfulness I can ride that dragon and I can be the steward of that dragon and allow that dragon to take me where I need to go.

Thoughts on Breathing

  • Breathing is just the first touchstone. It's everything, you know, the breath is everything.
  • I've done a lot of breath work, especially when I was living at Harbin Hot Springs and helping to lead breath work events there. I became so much more aware of my breath and even now, as you mentioned my breath, I can feel like my breath is a little bit high because I'm eager, you know.
  • So it reminds me to just sort of let my belly soften and let my whole body soften and arrive even more, even in the midst of my eagerness to be with you.

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Bullying Story

  • What comes to mind for me is that I do work with a lot of parents of very intuitive kids and I call them dragon kids because sometimes these kids have so much energy in their bodies that they might get labeled as having some condition, whether it's ADHD or autism.
  • I'm not a doctor so I can't say what those things are and who's what and blah, blah blah. But I do notice that there are a movement of kids now who have so much much energy in their little tiny bodies, you know, like there's so such big spirits.
  • And when I work with the parents of those kids and occasionally with the kids directly, which is super fun too, a lot of what we do is to help those kids become more mindful. And we want them to have resources to become centered and to relax into their own invisible team.
  • A lot of those kids are actually very aware that they have guardian angels or imaginary friends or some force that they can listen to you when they're quiet in here.
  • Getting them back in touch with that, in my mind, is what can also help them in instances where they're being bullied for being big or for being out of control or whatever.
  • That invisible team is right there for them and they have a different reference point than just these kids were holding themselves as the authorities on the playground, which of course they're not.
  • They're just more kids looking for their own power, looking to hold power in a way that can feel safe to them. And so mindfulness, in addition to the intuitive gifts, acknowledging and welcoming intuitive gifts, I feel like be a huge benefit to especially the sensitive empathic supercharged dragon kids.
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310 Capture Mindfulness With Photographer Andrew Darlow

April 5, 2018

Andrew Darlow is an award-winning photographer, writer, consultant and product developer. He specializes in helping people take better photos, organize their images and videos, and create prints from their work. He has appeared on many radio and TV programs, including WOR Radio (NYC), Animal Planet, WLOB (Boston) and KCTY (CA), and his work has been featured in numerous magazines and websites, including People Magazine, Professional Photographer and Women’s World Magazine. The author of four photo-related books, his newest book, Focus and Filter, covers tips and techniques for taking better photos, finding the right equipment and organizing your gear. He has also just launched a video course to accompany the book. Additional tips, more excerpts from the book and links to free video training can be found at www.WorkflowSchool.com.

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Most Influential Person

  • My Dad.

Effect on Emotions

  • I believe that when you try to do good for others and you try to think about ways in which your actions can impact the world in some way, I think that's mindfulness.
  • Often thinking about yourself can also benefit others. I think the basic system of capitalism in that you think about yourself and your family, but you also then in many cases are creating products and services to help others.
  • That's kind of the business side also and the philosophy side of mindfulness.

Thoughts on Breathing

  • Well, until I started meditating, I didn't realize the power of breathing, but now that I've done it so many times and I've followed my breath in and out, I can see it even more.
  • I recently listened to a meditation and the gentleman was saying something like; realize that even when you're not aware of your breathing, you are breathing. So that's some heavy stuff.
  • Okay, so I'm not thinking about my breathing, but it's still happening. So there's a lot of things related to that that get a little bit deep about life in general and the way our minds work.

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  • Book: Man's Search For Meaning by Viktor Frankl
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Bullying Story

  • Well, as far as bullying, I'm fortunate that I was never beat up. I've listened to some of your guests and it's heartbreaking to hear what they said about them actually being physically assaulted.
  • My bullies were more just kids in the neighborhood maybe running after me trying to make me scared or something like that. That's really my extent, I would say of bullying.
  • I have family members who have disabilities or special abilities I like to say, so maybe I could see things from a different standpoint.
  • I would see how people might look at them and wonder; well why are you looking at them? So I could empathize a little more from a young age.
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309 Unlock The Secrets of Sacred Orgasmic Love; Emunah Malinovitz

April 2, 2018

Emunah Malinovitz specializes in Sacred Love. She is skilled at helping you find the right person and she can give you the tools you need to build solid, long-lasting sacred love. Emunah's specialties are Sacred Ceremonies, weddings, and even divorces. She teaches tools to create powerful connections and how to connect on only 20 minutes. She also teaches couples a profound sensual way to meditate together; this method is called Sacred Orgasmic Meditation. Emunah believes in sacred love as a way of life.

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Most Influential Person

  • Oprah

Effect on Emotions

  • How has mindfulness affected your emotions? Mindfulness has gotten me more in touch with them and then I can love them like I talked about and heal them.

Thoughts on Breathing

  • Tell us how breathing is part of your mindfulness; you already touched on it, but let's sum it up.
  • It's essential and it's conscious breathing, so not just breathing because God is breathing me right now, thank God, but I need to get present and be conscious to that breath and feel it.

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Bullying Story

  • Yeah, and you know, this even happened in my adult life and I was working for an amazing company doing personal growth work and I was really good at sales and I was really good at starting to do presentations from the stage. There was another woman that was working there and that was her job, you know, before I came along she was the star.
  • You can imagine if you're the person making the sales for the company, you felt good and you're important and here I came along and I had this natural ability to connect with people and to feel again using a lot of the tools we've talked about helped me be good at sales and be able to feel and be with people.
  • So she was in a position above me in her power structure in that company. So I definitely felt like there were a lot of ways where she would not give me certain opportunities or use whatever means were in her control to hold me back or not allow something to happen.
  • And it was difficult, you know, because I am a sensitive person and I can feel all of that. So it was very challenging, and the ways that I dealt with it, I first needed to know that what I was feeling wasn't wrong, that, you know, sometimes I think we make ourselves crazy, you know, and other people will make us crazy because they'll say, no, that's not going on.
  • That's all in your own head. And it's like, no, this is what's happening and I feel that and I'm not going to make that wrong. And then, you know, there were times where I would talk to my other friends about it just to get some reflection and support and make sure I'm not crazy, you know?
  • And then there were times where we've had to sit down as a group and just kind of have a circle and with other people there to support us and being honest and truthful. So I was in a community then, where we really honored the truth and we really honored being able to feel sensations.
  • I know that's not most places where we go, but that's the culture I would like to create because the truth is we are going to have people that rub us the wrong way in life. But really it's like, what is it in me that they are triggering? What is it that has me feel insecure, that is an opportunity for me to love in my own body.
  • And again, I know this stuff. It sounds so simple, but it's a lot harder to practice when you're in the situation. You know? And I don't want to make light of people who are being bullied. Like it's just the saddest thing. You know that people abuse their power and this is what we're talking about when you talk about the 'me too' movement and these men in power that are getting taken down, they had power and they bullied with it, they took with it, they used that power to take something rather than connect with another human being.
  • And I think that that's partly because we don't know how to connect. So what we've been taught is to be like, I'll be the more powerful one and I'll get my power by putting you down and this is part of what I say we're awakening the Feminine Energy in all of us.
  • We're feeling our compassion, our heart. It's like there has to come a place where our heart opens and we're like, what? I don't want to treat anybody like that. Like why would I do that? That's not right.
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308 Let Loose With YoGoGirls Yoga Founder Debby Siegel

March 29, 2018

Debby Siegel is a Yoga Teacher and founder of the business, YoGoGirls. She calls herself a passionate steward of Earth, mostly a Barefoot Steward. She’s also a marketer, copywriter and editor with a distinctive edge which she finds in the wild.  She’s an avid cyclist, enthusiastic athlete and Mom of the Millenium. Debby is currently writing a Mindful Marionettes Puppet Show designed to teach kids about mindfulness.

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Most Influential Person

  • Gretchen Rubin

Effect on Emotions

  • How has mindfulness affected my emotions? Oh Wow. That is a good one. Thank you for asking that. Yes, they for me, like I said, it's about quieting my mind, right? And being able to be in this moment right here.
  • For me it has leveled off the extreme emotions which are derived from worry about the future or fretting over the past.
  • So by being right here, it's made me pretty even keel, and that is not always been something you could say about Debby Siegel.

Thoughts on Breathing

  • Well, there's actually science behind it, right; breathing deeply into your abdomen. And I am really drawn to a yogic breathing called Deerga breathing, it's Deerga breath. It's a three-part breath and it's where you start by feeling your belly cavity, so you're breathing deep. You expand that out and then next you move into your lungs and your rib areas, blowing those out in 360, and then finally just even extending the air all the way up into your throat.
  • You start filling bottom to top and you exhale and you empty top to bottom. And this type of breathing has a lot of indications that all of the benefits of meditation and breathing will scientifically happen as you kind of hit your Vegus nerve.
  • And then it takes your body into that rest or digest phase an out of the fight or flight that pretty much all operate in more often than not. I'm very drawn to that type of breathing. One might even point out that prior to our interview I was breathing, I was integrating that into my own instruction and guidance. So yeah, it calms you, right? I am a rock climber, so one of my hobbies, I climb cliffs. I can get on the same rock wall, that's the same difficulty from the ground. And then you take that same rock wall and maybe put it up a few hundred feet, which I've done as well, like all over the United States; I've climbed in 11 states.
  • You start from that place and start to climb and you realize the mind-body connection right away. It changes, you know, your mind is so powerful. It changes your ability to focus on climbing.
  • So I will say breath has been incredibly powerful there. It can get you past that, that anxious fear that we in the sport doesn't involve. So yes, breathing, I incorporate it into almost everything I do now and I feel I need to come back to that clear-minded place that breathing is, it's my medicine.

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Bullying Story

  • I've been both the bully and the bullied in childhood.
  • I feel like recalling and retelling childhood bully stories would kind of give them some power in my now. So I would instead like to focus on the second part of your question, where mindfulness would've made a difference.
  • Mindfulness would make a difference for bullying everywhere, right? I mean, I happen to believe that bullying is just a person's need to be seen. We all need to be seen by others. We all need acknowledgment. It's a human condition and bullying is just a more intense method of achieving this.
  • So by holding more space for others in our day-to-day lives, perhaps we'll be offering the fulfillment of being seen to someone who might otherwise turn that lack into a bullying opportunity.

 

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307 Reclaim Your Spark With PoleFit Nation’s Jane Wilson

March 26, 2018

Jane Wilson is the founder of PoleFit Nation - a pole dancing for fitness company. When Jane started teaching fitness through Pole Dancing in 2008, she understood that what her clients were learning wasn’t so much about pole dancing, it was about self-esteem and embracing who you are and who you 

want to be. Over the past decade, she has helped thousands of women feel strong, empowered and confident. She is the Canadian Masters Pole Fitness Champion of 2015 and she has been featured in national publications including Chatelaine magazine. Jane believes that through Pole Dancing, you can reinvent your life.

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Most Influential Person

  • My father

Effect on Emotions

  • I have an anxiety disorder and being mindful has helped me calm my anxiety disorder down. I'm very different now with it.
  • Every single day I'm aware so if I feel the anxiety is sort of coming through. If I'm feeling anxious, I understand the physiological response, my body response, so I'm able to work through the steps to calm myself down and do the cognitive therapy to calm myself down.

Thoughts on Breathing

  • I have two different ways of breathing. So we have the regular way of breathing, but then we also have our diaphragm breathing and I'm working on my public speaking.
  • I've learned how to speak in an effective way and breathe so that I'm not holding my breath and then talking a lot and then running out of air. So it's interesting you ask that because I've been working for the past few months on improving my breathing when I speak.

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Bullying Story

  • This incident happened in 2014 and it actually involved the studio and myself in which I was protested for a week. So this lady had driven by the studio and she looked through the windows. We weren't open at the time and she saw a room full of brass balls.
  • When we have classes, we close the blinds, but during the daytime the blinds are open so you can see inside. And there was a poster of me on the window where I'm holding the pole. It's one of our marketing posters. I'm looking happy and smiley. She was deeply offended and it triggered her.
  • It actually triggered a negative memory she had when she was younger. So in her youth, she unfortunately had a terrible childhood in which she was living on the street, became a prostitute and she was a stripper. And seeing the studio and me on the pole triggered it. So she felt she needed to have the studio shut down, that it wasn't OK and that what I was doing was wrong and she was very upset with it.
  • So first she went on Facebook and in Oakville there is a Facebook group about Oakville which has about 8,000 members on it and that's where she started. So she posted that she needed people to band together to shut down the pole dancing studio and that what I was doing was wrong and I was teaching women to become prostitutes.
  • So she projected by what was happening with her. I was, I was mindful enough to realize what was happening, but we had a situation where I had somebody who was not healthy and happy and if I were to attack her back he would make things worse. So I just, I stood up and I spoke about what the studio was about with more of an education point of view.
  • And then I didn't respond back after that. Well, because there's 8,000 members involved, people jumped on and it went on for like three days of online shaming towards her because she's attacking so people want to fight back. So I had to tell all my students do not participate, do not get involved, leave it be, because we don't want to feed the beast, the social media beast. So my students were very wonderful about it and it faded away.
  • So we didn't participate. we stood back from it. So then after it all calmed down, she decided to stand in front of my business with a sign saying, prostitution is wrong. She would arrive around 9:00 AM and would leave around 4:00 PM. The police arrived the first day and they talked to me about it. And in Canada we have the charter of rights.
  • So she was fully allowed to do that, to stand on public space in front of my business, to promote her agenda about prostitution is wrong and I totally agree, prostitution is wrong. But that's not what we're doing. Whenever people would walk by, she would tell them stuff about me, she would slander, she would say negative things.
  • So the police on the very first day pulled me aside and said, do you have a choice on how you want to handle this? You can either attack back, which will make things worse or you can ignore and we highly recommend you ignore. And so I also spoke to one of our local MPs, a member of parliament, because we all know politicians get protested quite a bit and he advised the same thing. He goes, don't engage, don't participate, don't even look at her when she arrives, go home. And that's what I did every single day.
  • She chose to protest against me during the first week of July, which was the hottest week of the summer. So I went home every single day when she arrived, I would say see you later, get in the car and go home and hang out with my kids and she would stand out in front. So I didn't really, I didn't want to hear what she said about me. I didn't want to know.
  • I just knew, eventually she would move on and in fact, by the end of the week, she called me up on the phone and left a voice message saying that her work was done. My apologies for causing any hardship, any pain. She said I need to move on now. So I'm actually very proud of how I handled that. I was being bullied, but I chose a different path of how to handle it instead of fighting back, I chose peace and not to engage.
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