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Archangel Changemaker 2022

Archangel Changemaker 2022

September 19, 2022

Last weekend I attended the Archangel Changemaker Event at Beanfield Centre in Toronto. It was a 2-day event put on by Giovanni Marsico. I’ve attended the annual Archangel Event since about 2016. The live event didn’t happen during COVID, so last weekend was the first in-person gathering since 2019. Today I’ll tell you a little about this awesome event. There was a long list of speakers so I’ll mention a few of them.

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1/ Steve Sims

First, I was excited that Steve Sims was attending as a speaker. I interviewed Steve back in 2018. His episode was #360. He is a guy who has worked with Tony Robbins, Elon Musk, and Richard Branson and made incredible things happen for these and so many other people. He has planned events, arranged for people to meet, and generally led a fascinating life doing things that most of us wouldn’t even dream of. I was able to talk to Steve and get a photo with him and I’ll tell you he was really personable and approachable. If you want to check out Steve, find him at www.SteveWSims.com and you can listen to his MM interview by going to www.mindfulnessmode.com/360

2/ Stu McLaren

Stu McLaren was another speaker who had an interesting and memorable talk. He encourages people to start a membership site. He’s been helping people start membership sites since 2008 and he’s helped a huge list of ppl become successful by using this strategy. . He is a fellow Canadian, also from Ontario. He talked about several people who had created interesting membership sites including Art2Life Academy, The Twisterhood where they make balloon animals, and Tony’s Acoustic Challenge where Men Over 50 play the acoustic guitar together. Stu had a segment during his talk when he got people in the audience to participate in a sing-along of the song, Every Little Thing by Bob Marley. Towards the end of his talk, he told us about his non-profit organization called ‘Village Impact’ where he builds schools in rural Kenya for underprivileged children.

3/ Danielle Laporte

Another speaker who had a powerful impact on me was Danielle Laporte. I’ve heard her speak before and again, she was incredible. She started by talking about acceptance and how her definition of acceptance is ‘wonder and awe tinged with respect’. She talked about fear and how we all create our own fear and that we should not try to avoid it. She said we should practice loving kindness with our doubts and shame. She said we should all ‘choose loving thoughts’, and that ‘energy follows thought’. She said to think about this question: How do I want to feel?

Danielle has a new book coming out in October called, “How To Be Loving: As Your Heart Is Breaking Open and Our World Is Waking Up”. I encourage you to purchase the book, I know I’m looking forward to reading it.

Book: How To Be Loving: As Your Heart Is Breaking Open by Danielle Laporte

4/ Jim Kwik

Jim Kwik was also speaking on the weekend, and I’ve heard him before as well. He started by talking about how we can all ‘Upgrade Our Brain’ just as he teaches in his book, ‘Upgrade Your Brain: Learn Anything Faster and Unlock Your Exceptional Life.’ He talked about three M’s: Mindset, Motivation, and Method. He said Mindset represented possibility, motivation was about purpose and method was about the process. He said, “If you fight for your limitation, you are going to achieve them.” He also talked about an effective formula for life which is PXEXS3. That represents Purpose times Energy, times small, simple steps. He emphasized that the key to achieving success is taking small simple steps consistently. I would like to have Jim and Danielle as a guest on Mindfulness Mode.

Book: Limitless: Upgrade Your Brain by Jim Kwik

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Tai Chi To Heal; Sifu Rubia

Tai Chi To Heal; Sifu Rubia

September 15, 2022

Sifu Rubia discovered the benefits of Tai Chi as a way to heal herself, and she has been a consistent student and practitioner ever since. An orphan born in Bangladesh, Sifu Rubia has navigated the scars of deep loss and trauma creating intense anxiety in her body and mind, including the traumatic loss of her body to a miscarriage which brought her to her first Qi Gong class where she discovered the healing and strength building power Qi cultivation firsthand, Because Qi Gong & Tai Chi have helped her overcome barriers attached to grief and loss, Sifu Rubia decided that she wanted to be able to pass these benefits on to others, to teach as many people as possible just how accessible these ancient technologies are, and how much they can help people of all ages take control of their physical and mental wellbeing and bring light into darkness.

Since then, she has accumulated hundreds of hours of teacher training, including Yang Family style Tai Chi, Yoga, and Iron Shirt Qi Gong. With over a decade of teaching experience, Sifu Rubia has transformed hundreds of lives, giving students the tools to maintain health, rejuvenate their bodies and recapture youthful energy and equanimity in their life. These modalities are truly sacred spaces where one can self-regulate and heal. Using all that accumulated

knowledge and experience, teaching in community centers, drug, and alcohol rehabilitation centers, private group classes, as well as public speaking engagements at both local and national corporate functions, Sifu Rubi has created an incredible Tai Chi Fundamentals for Beginners course that is the perfect start to

your journey to a new, healthier and more balanced you. As she says to herself, “The whole world needs healing now. And that journey starts within ourselves.

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  • First Tai Chi teacher and Zazie Malanga

Effect on Emotions

  • Breath, breathwork, hands down, learn how to breathe, learn breathing technique. And then your emotions are temporary. But when you're in them, you think either that they're forever, but they're temporary. So learning how to move through them through your breath.

Thoughts on Breathing

  • The simplest one is one hand on the heart, and one hand on the belly called belly breath. That's the simplest, but for me has been the most affected at any point in time, and do it wherever you need, if you're in your car, and you're stuck in traffic, and just take a moment and can reconnect to your breath really deeply and mindfully.
  • There are some fire breath techniques that help, move stagnation from the body. So that's really a good one as well when you want to energize as opposed to soften.
  • And then there's alternate nasal breathing, where you alternate breathing in and out from one nostril, and then switching over. So those are the three main ones that I work with. But there are plenty of others out there as well.

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Bullying Story

  • Bullying, as a woman and a woman of color, I feel like it's a constant state of affairs. I've been in the world of business for a very long time, I've managed multiple businesses, and I've owned multiple businesses. So the constant confrontation, of being up against the patriarchy, to me is constant bullying.
  • I'm sure every woman can relate to that, whether you're a woman of color or not. Then I come back to how these practices have helped me soften my inner being and have put me in touch with my Yin side because when you are in the business world, you're all young energy. And that's fine to get work done and get things going. But it's imbalanced.
  • If you can't find your softness and your femininity, whether you're male or female, then you're doing a disservice to yourself. So these modalities have helped me to soften my energy.
  • Besides being present, it's soft that will always overcome the heart. So it's the softness of the water, but the consistency and the persistence of the water that cuts through the rock. And I'm quoting, the Tao Te Ching, this is not me. This is not my realization so in that sense, my mindfulness practice has helped me with that, and then, in meditating more on it further.

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Building Peace Into Parenting; Nellie Harden

Building Peace Into Parenting; Nellie Harden

September 12, 2022

Nellie Harden is a Family Life & Leadership Coach who focuses on helping parents eliminate power struggles with their daughters and help them grow into confident, wise, and respectful young women that are actually ready for the world! Nellie is a wife and mom to 4 daughters, an author, speaker, podcaster, homeschooling parent, and adventure chaser. She has a degree in biology and psychology and a diverse behavior background from humpback whales in the South Pacific to teens and parents in homes across the world. This mom believes in a life of intention and making dreams and goals realities. She knows that the best way to help the world is through one living room at a time!

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Effect on Emotions

  • Instead of emotions, being in the driver's seat, I've been able to step back and see where the emotions are coming from because before they're an emotion, it's a thought.
  • So if we look at our thoughts more as a busy airport, and we're taking the ones and sitting in the plane, if you will, of the ones that we're choosing, and then we're on the flight, we're actually feeling something about it, we have power over that choice, right.
  • I know emotions can get carried away super quickly. I've definitely experienced that today. But understanding that I am choosing to have this, and I have a lot more control than I ever thought I did before has been very empowering. Because you can step out of the emotion then, and look at it from a third-party point of view, instead of just being in it and having them rule you. And then your behavior, if you're sitting just inside of the emotion, is all over the place. So

Thoughts on Breathing

  • I think breathing is so important. I like to do this square breathing. That's the way that helps me, it has a visual with it. So
  • I'm a very visual person, a visual learner. So if I can, breathe in the top out and then in and out and just keep going around the square, it gives me something to focus on in my head. And you can always find usually always find a square around you somewhere. So
  • So I do a lot of square breathing. It's also being able to cleanse your brain because thinking about when you're watching a movie or a suspenseful part or something like that. So many times I find myself not breathing. That's a good clue right there that when I'm stressed when my emotions are high, I'm actually not breathing. So
  • And so when everything gets calm, you're like, Oh, thank goodness. Right. And so that's a natural cue to me that if I want to be in a state of calm, then I should breathe as though I am calm.  So

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Bullying Story

  • I've been on the side of bullying. I was never popular. I went to middle school with perm bangs and straight hair. I believe I was in seventh grade which is a hard time for everybody. build peace into parenting
  • So there was a boy, I really, really liked him and he was part of the popular crowd. And so the word got around that I liked him. And he so he wrote me a note. And he said, meet me by your locker at such and such a time. And I really, I really want to talk to you and had a heart on it.
  • So I primped my permed bangs and went all there and stood at the locker. And at that point, there was a crowd. I mean, this was like an after-school special-type story. But anyway, he came up. And he just said, “Did you really think that I would like you, of course, I don't, and walked away.”
  • And then everyone was just laughing and, of course, I was crushed. I was so embarrassed. And then I had to go to school with these people for the next seven years. That was always such a gleaming story in my head.
  • I had to keep going to class, I had to keep going to school, I had to keep saying hello to these people and not be rude. Funny enough, we're Facebook friends today, you only behave out of what you know. build peace into parenting

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Mindful Travel From A Luxury Lifestyle Specialist; Shane Mahoney

Mindful Travel From A Luxury Lifestyle Specialist; Shane Mahoney

September 8, 2022

Shane Mahoney is the founder of Lugos Travel and a luxury travel expert who has personally crafted thousands of authentic trips for travelers. At Lugos Travel, each itinerary is heavily researched with local references, data points, family tours, and recommendations. Lugos Travel is the only company in the industry to provide custom luxury travel itineraries (good for any day of the year) in under 30 minutes. With zero questions up front, Lugos Travel successfully customizes trips by fitting each traveler into 1+ of 4 archetypes (savor, excite, explore, and pampered). As an expert who has been in the luxury travel industry for over ten years, Mahoney has dedicated his life to connecting and reconnecting loved ones by crafting travel experiences that surprise and delight his clients.

Mahoney has lived in exotic locations such as Spain, Borneo, and Australia and traveled to over 22 countries worldwide. He has a thirst for adventure and has driven Baja trucks, gone Paragliding, Parachuting, and high-speed rollerblading at over 50 miles per hour. Mahoney’s greatest passion is to create excitement in other people’s lives and to foster great relationships through the power of travel while streamlining the traveling process making it stress-free and enjoyable.

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Effect on Emotions & Thoughts on Breathing

  • Probably my favorite way (to deal with emotions) is three deep breaths. As soon as you feel yourself getting emotional, it's just being able to realize that the last thing you want to do is take three deep breaths. Mindful Travel
  • But it's also the best thing you can do. I've been instituting that with my son since he was born. I think realizing how my dad was quick to anger, I had to realize that I too am quick to anger. And so mindfulness for me is about being able to pause and just give myself and my body a moment to be my true self. Mindful Travel

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Bullying Story

  •  I don't feel like I've ever been a bully or been bullied. Maybe a little bit in my family life.
  • In this business, it's very much about relationships. I need my partners as much as they need me. So, I have seen previously lots of other companies that engage with partners on a very superficial level. And I think when you go into a business contract, without having a contract, it can be very difficult to get the results that you wish to have.
  • But we take that relationship very seriously. And we have contracted our own contract that we share with our partners in all of our countries that defines exactly what a Lugo's travel experience is, what does it look like? What is expected?
  • Do we have cold bottled water in the limousine when you pick us up? Like, these are the small details that I feel like, you can be disappointed if you didn't set an expectation. So I don't know how that fits in with bullying. Because honestly, I look at it as like, it's preparation.
  • It's all a preparation game. If I'm prepared, and I'm bringing my best self forward, then I know that my partners and the experience for my clients will be fantastic. And it will live up to what I believe it should be. Mindful Travel

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Lessen Your Stress Using This Super Achiever Habit; Amy Novotny

Lessen Your Stress Using This Super Achiever Habit; Amy Novotny

September 4, 2022

Dr. Amy Novotny founded the PABR® Institute with the mission to provide pain, stress, and anxiety relief to those who seek a naturalistic form of treatment when other treatment methods have fallen short. Her unique approach comes from her experience treating in a variety of settings and with a wide range of patient populations over the past 12 years. Her background in orthopedics, sports, geriatrics, balance disorders, nerve injuries, and most recently, chronic pain; and influences from coursework at the Postural Restoration Institute gave her the foundation to develop this treatment method to address a wide variety of painful and restrictive conditions. The methods she knows have helped countless people reduce and eliminate pain, stress, anxiety, orthopedic surgeries, sleep issues, and the need for medications. 

Dr. Novotny has co-authored two Amazon #1 Best-Selling books: Don’t Quit: Stories of Persistence, and Courage and Faith and Success Habits of Super Achievers, which share her journey on how and why she developed the PABR® Method. Her ability to speak French and Spanish has allowed her to communicate with and help various clients from all around the world, including France, Mexico, Central America, and South America. 

Dr. Novotny has a variety of interests including running 40+ marathons, running 10 ultra marathons (including two 100 milers), completing an Ironman triathlon, and photographing wildlife and landscapes all over the world which has led to several of her images being chosen as Photos of the Day, most notably National Geographic Your Shot World Top Photo of the Day.

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Effect on Emotions

  • I am highly less emotionally reactive. I pause a lot more. And I would say that my ability to respond has been less bit based on fear, and more based on solutions. So I'm not so emotionally reactive, because I'm more mindful.

Thoughts on Breathing

  • When you breathe, you want to be able to feel your breastbone, melt in as you exhale, and feel your belly spill out. When you do that, it will help bring all of your attention to your body. Therefore you can feel everything relaxed, allowing you to be mindful of the present.

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Bullying Story

  • I was bullied as a child, I was somewhat popular during some times of my life, and other times I wasn't. And so I've been on the receiving end of being bullied and it's a hard thing to go through. I think when it comes to mindfulness regarding that when you're on the receiving end, it's hard to do anything other than to be in a freeze-mode or think how do I run away? 
  • And in terms of the person who's doing the bullying, I think there needs to be some awareness that that person is hurting somehow. They're lacking attention so they're seeking attention. They're seeking to assert themselves, because somehow, they're not getting that attention, or they're getting bullied themselves at home. 
  • I think we need to look around us and say, How are our own interactions affecting others? So many times, we may be using our words that really create some hurt and other people, and then they go to someone else. And they might bully that person just to be able to feel some type of satisfaction for the hurt feelings from a different interaction. 

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Intermittent Fasting For The Professional; Zach Mathews

Intermittent Fasting For The Professional; Zach Mathews

August 31, 2022

Zach Mathews is the author of Climbing Your Self-Discipline Tree, which challenges readers to envision their loftiest long-term goals, then put together a concrete plan to achieve them. He is a freelance writer, online self-discipline coach, and blogger on zachmathewswriting.com. A few years ago, he made the jump from a successful career in the Sports industry to fulfill my dream of being a full-time writer. Now he wants to help others do the same with their dreams!

Whether you have aspirations of starting your own business, losing 50 pounds, climbing the ladder at your current company, or any other type of goal, my book can help you realize the essential steps to prepare, produce, and persist. Each of these will help you achieve your wildest dreams and enjoy the process. He was born and raised in St. Louis, but currently, he and his wife reside in Tampa, Florida.

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  • His dad

Effect on Emotions

  • I think it's just having the power to self-regulate, never let yourself get too high or too low. I would just say, keep your emotions in check. I was talking earlier about being a father and self -regulating when he's screaming and everything like that. It goes the same way with your personal and professional career. You just have to level yourself out so that you can produce. Intermittent Fasting

Thoughts on Breathing

  • I do think it's important. Where it's most important to me is in my workouts, and I like to do yoga, to make sure I maintain my flexibility and breathing is huge for that. Those two things alone especially have shown me the power of inhaling and exhaling and the fact that most of us, because we don't think about our breathing, are probably breathing wrong.
  • My father-in-law actually read a book entitled, Breath, and it just kind of talks about the role that breathing plays when we sleep. If your mouth breathes, it's actually bad for you, and there are some repercussions.
  • So the book explains how to train your body to not breathe through your mouth when you sleep anymore, but through your nose, but I don't pretend to know everything about it. But from a workout perspective, breathing is vitally important because even exhaling can help your body perform and kind of get adrenaline going and everything that your body needs to perform. So it's very important from a performance standpoint. Intermittent Fasting

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Bullying Story

  • I was bullied growing up. And often, it's unfortunate. The bully isn't typically the big scary person that you see. It was my friends, it was the people, the friends that I had closest to me in school.
  • They would call me stupid. Part of that was because I just didn't apply myself and didn't care to get good grades. But they called me stupid.
  • I was kind of the butt of the jokes a lot. That was in elementary and middle school, and as I got into high school, I didn't even try because I'd been told by my friends for three, or four years that I was dumb, I was stupid and I couldn't do it.
  • So in high school, I didn't even try, I barely graduated on time, and I was one credit short of being held back a year. Looking back, it was the way that I processed the shame on myself. But the bullying aspect is talking about mindfulness, being more mindful of just how strong words can be, especially in formative years.
  • They really think that I was stupid. Now, did they really think that I was dumb? Did they think that if I couldn't get straight A's, or really good grades? No, but just saying that just to play the cool kid card, and have someone to unleash their personal self-doubt. It's kind of a way to get that off their chest.
  • But just understanding and being mindful of the power that words have. Fortunately, for me, I was able to overcome that. And I had parents that loved me and believed in me, and good teachers that refuse to give up on me otherwise my life would have looked a lot different. Intermittent Fasting

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A Writer’s Mindfulness; Lindsay Lees

A Writer’s Mindfulness; Lindsay Lees

August 28, 2022

Lindsay Lees is originally from Los Angeles but with dual citizenship in the UK. She grew up in both countries and went on to study Creative Writing. First earned a B.A. in 2008 from Manchester Metropolitan University and later followed by an M.F.A. in 2017 from California College of the Arts. The Willing is Lindsay’s debut novel. She currently lives a quiet Southern life with her husband and a houseful of pets. Writer's Mindfulness

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  • Her mother, a clinical psychologist Writers

Effect on Emotions

  • It's easy for me to allow my anxieties and my insecurities to paralyze me. So coming out of that; focusing on yoga, breathing, and becoming more centered is really life-changing.

Thoughts on Breathing

  • I enjoy breathing techniques. Pranayama things that you learn in Yoga. There's the Dutch guy, Wim Hof, who does breathing techniques, and they're fascinating, and his whole life meeting and learning. What that practice is about is it's very expansive and it can shift your mood in a very short period of time, and that can be essential to be able to overcome certain things.  Writer's Mindfulness

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Bullying Story

  • When you are an adolescent in a position where you are less capable of standing up for yourself less confident. Growing up was challenging because I didn't feel that I had so many things going on in my personal life and in my family life that I couldn't share and that I didn't understand completely. Writer's Mindfulness
  • That made me different from the kids in my classroom and who I was growing up. So I wish that children could not let those self-defeating thoughts and those insecurities become their identity in a way.
  • Then influence how you view yourself and understand that the person that you are back then is not going to be the person that you are when you grow up and you're capable of developing new ways of thinking, your understanding of the world, and how people really view themselves and try to belittle others because they don't feel good about themselves. That's their only way of coping. Writers

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Tame the Ego’s Tongue; Alan Carroll

Tame the Ego’s Tongue; Alan Carroll

August 24, 2022

Alan Carroll is an Educational Psychologist who specializes in Transpersonal Psychology. He founded Alan Carroll & Associates 30 years ago and before that, he was a Senior Sales Training Consultant for 10 years at Digital Equipment Corporation. He has dedicated his life to searching for tools that can be used by everyone, to escape the psychological suffering caused by the misidentification with our ego and reconnect to the vast transcendent mindful dimension of consciousness that lies just on the other side of the thoughts we think and between the words we speak.

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  • Spiritual Teachers

Effect on Emotions

  • Sadhguru describes anger and he holds up a cup. He says anger is like drinking from a cup of poison and expecting the other person to die you are angry. And so why would you cause chemical changes in your physical body that causes diseases that are caused by the toxic release of chemicals because of the anger? Why would you do that?
  • You would do that because the ego doesn't care about your body. The ego cares about being right. And what it does to my body is irrelevant. As long as I get my pound of flesh, I'm happy but when you start looking at your body, you recognize that there are loving emotions and there are emotions that are toxic. And so you stop because there's a space for you to observe. or that, hey, it's not beneficial for me to be angry. So I gotta figure out another strategy. That's mindfulness.

Thoughts on Breathing

  • Breathing is part of the autonomic nervous system, you do not have to think about breathing when you're speaking. It does it automatically. But the point being is that the amount of oxygen you take in when you don't think about breathing is about a little over a liter, of the six-liter capacity.
  • So if you think about breathing, you can actually tell your body to take in more oxygen than is necessary, which gives you more prana, more energy. And so you can regulate your energy by becoming conscious of breathing, but you can't become conscious and breathing unless you are able to tell your body to breathe, you have to have the thought, the thought inside your head while you're standing up.
  • If I'm an audience, I'm going to take a deep breath right now. Then you can take a deep breath, but you have to be able to pause to create that space in which you get to know and control the timing in order to tell your body to breathe.

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Bullying Story

  • Nothing is either right or wrong. But thinking makes itself so. You shouldn't be bullied, bullying is wrong. So in the reality in which you live, your ego is now engaged in there's something happening in your movie right now of this situation or this person what they're doing, and you're labeling it bullying, and so and so you're not present in the moment, you're dealing with a bully at the moment not objectively, logically right now, that's a bully, and so and so until you, until you're able to be more relaxed with the energy that's around the Bolinas.
  • Then whatever solution you're going to try to figure out may not strategically be the best that maybe tactically it might work. immediately, but strategically you have to deal with the person who is looking at it and labeling it. And realizing that that label is not the best way to label it.

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You Are Deathless; Nicole Angelique Kerr

You Are Deathless; Nicole Angelique Kerr

August 21, 2022

Nicole Kerr is an award-winning health and wellness expert. Throughout her 30-year career, she has focused on supporting thousands of people from every walk of life to make realistic, meaningful choices for lifelong health. As a 19-year-old cadet at the US Air Force Academy, Nicole went through a transformative NDE. Her pursuit of improving her own health led her to inspire others to reach emotional, energetic, and spiritual well-being. You Are Deathless

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  • Her husband

Effect on Emotions

  • I learned a technique called neuro-emotional technique, which I became certified in, and then if I am not processing an emotion, I'm a somatic processor. So my body lets me know, I'll either belch or I usually will get a headache, and then I will work through what was it and it's usually one that's like shame, a difficult one that I don't want to feel. When it's triggering something from the past I go back and figure out what that is.

Thoughts on Breathing

  • Breathing will keep you alive. I woke up from one operation and they told me right before it was an emergency one, or they had to cut me all the way open and they said you will probably wake up with a ventilator.
  • Being on a ventilator respirator and the first thing you're going to notice is you're wanting to instinctively pull it out. So your hands are going to be tied down and I had to wait for two days. I looked at the clip and covered the clock up because I kept looking at the clock because I couldn't say anything. I had to do yes and no through eye motions, but I had to learn to force myself to breathe with the machine.
  • I am all about breathing when you have a panic attack or anxiety; it's about getting your breath and getting that under control, for instance, breathing exercises, deep breathing, and all forms of breathing. Don't stay in this shallow breathing, get it down to the belly.

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Bullying Story

  • It was recently with my parents. I got sick again about eight years ago. We were going on overdue when I was on a honeymoon, and I invited my parents to come to stay in Hawaii at our home.
  • And I got really sick. My mother told me the reason I got sick was that I had a Buddha in the house. She told me that I looked like a wreck, was sick, and I wasn't beautiful anymore. She said that I was doing something to make myself sick. She wanted to know if I was going to church and I said, No. I go to church at the beach. And I love meditating on my walks on the beach and in the ocean.
  • She said, Well, you're not a Christian now and my heart just sank. Because here she is this ultra-religious lady, doing what Jesus said, Judge not lest you be judged. So she got up from the table and left me there. And I looked at my dad, and I said, Dad, do you believe her? And he said, Wait, you've looked better and, and that was it.
  • My husband didn't know about that conversation till I had a panic attack and had to go into the hospital for that. And then they left. And that was, I finally got the courage to separate from my parents. Unfortunately, it took me a long time, because I was still trying to get from them what they couldn't give me.
  •  We really do want it and, and will suffer greatly trying to get something from them that they can't give us. 

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The Party Scientist; Jacques Martiquet

The Party Scientist; Jacques Martiquet

August 17, 2022

Jacques Martiquet helps leaders embrace the incredible potential of gatherings as a memorable way of creating human connections. He is passionate about promoting psychological safety, social bonding, and fun to improve mental health planet-wide. He has recently returned from a multi-country tour where he truly whetted his skills as ‘The Party Scientist'. Jacques believes that journaling is the secret to progressive incline in one's well-being and that deep talk can lead to the type of relationships we all crave.

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Effect on Emotions

  • I don't get upset at myself and angry at myself for experiencing depth dips in my state and I accept that I am not to blame. I can't blame myself for my emotional experience.

Thoughts on Breathing

  • I take conscious breaths throughout the day. And I find that that helps me be less absent-minded. And it helps me be more receptive to human experiences to trigger ideas. So yeah, one breath at a time throughout the day, especially when those difficult triggers come up. The Party Scientist

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Bullying Story

  • Bullying happens during adulthood as well. When I was in high school, I was really short. I was an excluded kid and it was not a safe environment to be yourself. That's what blows my mind when our brains are in critical development. That's when the quality of our relationships and friendships and connections with others are the least secure.
  • So if we really want to fix these intractable problems in society, we need to address the quality of relationships that are present in children and in teenagers.
  • So I'm gonna give you an example that actually happened recently. So 2021, I'm just coming out of a business partnership with two of my co-founders. And one of my co-founders, he's like a brother to me, we went to a festival, I brought him on to the main stage of a festival.
  • They're in my men's group, two of these men are brothers to me. And they plan their first ever retreat. They don't invite me. They don't explain why they haven't invited me. And then they asked to use my speaker for the retreat. And they invited people who they're not even friends with.
  • It really hurt like, I haven't experienced that level of hurt. That's the greatest form of ostracization I've experienced because it was people I trusted, people who I thought were my best friends.
  • Essentially, they had no idea. They were totally incompetent. They had no intention to be malicious.
  • How could mindfulness have helped? I think it's more conscious empathy or conscious forecasting of other people's feelings that would have been helpful. The Party Scientist

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