Episodes
Thursday Feb 01, 2024
Doodling For Mindfulness; Ashton Rodenhiser
Thursday Feb 01, 2024
Thursday Feb 01, 2024
Ashton Rodenhiser is a live illustrator who is passionate about doodling for mindfulness. She has brought over 2500 presentations and conversations to
life. She is on a mission to teach sketchnoting skills to students and professionals so they can use doodling and drawing as their best thinking and learning tool. When she’s not working with clients, she's being silly with her three young kids and husband in rural Canada.
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Most Influential Person
- Maude Lewis; famous Nova Scotia folk artist
Effect On Emotions
- How has mindfulness affected how I deal with emotions? Oh, my gosh, well, that is a big question. I am definitely a highly sensitive person. And I think it's helped me just be okay with that. We'll keep it at that.
Thoughts On Breathing
- Oh, my gosh, what are my thoughts on breathing as it relates to mindfulness? Well, that I'm not so great at it.
- I definitely try to be mindful about breathing. But you have to really be intentional about it. This is something that I'm not so wonderful at.
Bullying Story
- I will tell you something that I learned a few years ago regarding a new definition for forgiveness. And it's really about letting go of the pain, so it doesn't hold you back anymore. Because it's not about forgiving a person; it has nothing to do with the other person. So, I feel like I take that philosophy into many different areas of my life. You know, so you could relate that to bullying.
- Because a lot of people who are bullied, they hang on to it. And they identify it; they name it; they create this into something that exists in a big way for them in their minds.
- And then they're not able to let go of it the way you're describing, and they think it's their identity.
- So it is so important to realize that it doesn't need to be your identity. It is making a very specific conscious decision to let this go.
- And it is a little bit about taking your own identity and power back and not giving it that energy.
Suggested Resources
- Book: The Untethered Soul by Michael A. Singer
- Book: Overcoming Underearning by Barbara Stanny
- App: True Voice and Insight Timer
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Monday Jan 29, 2024
Roaming The Globe; Kayla Ihrig
Monday Jan 29, 2024
Monday Jan 29, 2024
Kayla Ihrig has been known for roaming the globe since she bought a one-way ticket out of the United States in 2017. She has spent most of her time abroad ever since. Pushed by the feeling that life was passing her by at her nine-to-five, she found work online and fumbled her way through an attempt at executing the exact lifestyle she wanted. As a writer for publications like HubSpot and GoDaddy, she built an online business that now supports both her and her husband as they drift around the world. Her book ‘How To Be A Digital Nomad‘ is available worldwide on January 30th, 2024.
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- Website: www.writingfromnowhere.com
- Book: How to Be a Digital Nomad: Build a Successful Career While Travelling the World by Kayla Ihrig
Most Influential Person
- My husband, Barry
Effect On Emotions
- I often find myself feeling overwhelmed quite easily.
- This tendency seems to be inherent in the lifestyle of being self-employed and frequently traveling abroad.
- However, it's crucial to remain mindful of what is truly necessary. Identifying the pressing issues at hand is essential.
- By narrowing down the focus to the current situation and addressing specific problems, I've realized the importance of not getting bogged down by the bigger picture. This approach has had a significant impact on my overall well-being.
Thoughts On Breathing
- I make a conscious effort to be mindful of my breath, especially in moments of anxiety or when feeling overwhelmed.
- This practice extends to bedtime, where I consistently center my attention on my breathing. As a result, I notice my body gradually relaxing.
- In the past, falling asleep was a challenge for me, but now, with the incorporation of focused breathing, I find that it significantly helps the process of clearing my head before bedtime.
Bullying Story
- I have not experienced a lot of bullies in my life. I've been very lucky in that regard. No stories come to mind there. I mean, I've experienced a lot of negativity and some name-calling in the workplace, but I guess I never classified it as bullying.
- I think bullying is a pretty impactful negative experience.
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World Traveller, Steven Shalowitz Uses Mindfulness to Embrace Cultural Differences
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Aging In Reverse With World’s Top Wellness Influencer, Natalie Jill
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Thursday Jan 25, 2024
Tribute To Dan Miller
Thursday Jan 25, 2024
Thursday Jan 25, 2024
Today's episode is a tribute to Dan Miller. He was a well-loved man, a mentor, and a friend to many podcasters and entrepreneurs, including myself. He is the author of the New York Times best-selling book, 48 Days To The Work You Love. In December, Dan was diagnosed with pancreatic cancer, and he just passed away on the weekend. My deepest condolences go out to his wife, Joanne, and their children, Kevin Miller, Ashley Logsdon, and Jared Angaza.
From The MM Vault
For today’s episode, I have accessed our interview from the Mindfulness Mode vault of past episodes. I talked with Dan in July of 2020 and decided to share the conversation with you today.
Dan Miller has been a guest on CBS' ‘The Early Show,' MSNBC's ‘Hardball with Chris Mathews, and the Dave Ramsey Show. Dan has spoken at the White House Christian Fellowship and is in high demand as an expert on new opportunities in today’s changing workplace.
His 48 Days Podcast consistently ranks in the top 3 under Careers on iTunes. The 48DaysEagles.com community is viewed worldwide as an example for those seeking to find – or create – work they love. Dan has three grown children (who all host podcasts). Also seventeen grandchildren and has been married to Joanne for over 50 years.
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Contact Info
- Company: 48 Days
- Website: https://www.48days.com
- Podcast: The 48 Days Podcast
- Book: 48 Days to The Work You Love (20th Anniversary Edition) by Dan Miller
- Special Offer: https://www.48days.com/BRUCE
Most Influential Person
Effect on Emotions
- “It keeps me aware that when I have reason to be upset, I have a choice. Those are not inevitable responses, and I always have a choice.”
Thoughts on Breathing
- “As a matter of fact, I have a speech coach that I work with because I do a fair amount of speaking. I try to learn, and so I looked for a coach for breathing.”
Suggested Resources
- Book: 48 Days to The Work You Love (20th Anniversary Edition) by Dan Miller
- Book: The Daily Stoic by Ryan Holiday
- App: Muse, Calm
Bullying Story
- “I watch how somebody treats people. If there are any signs of bullying, ridicule, or belittling, I can't do business with them.”
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- The Success Principles; Jack Canfield
- 368 Napoleon Hill's Writings; Jeffrey Gitomer
- 208 Nuggets of Growth; Jared Angaza
Free Gift
Get a Free Chapter of '48 Days to the Work (and life) You Love', New 20th Anniversary Edition. Take the Life You Love Quiz and get extra bonuses if you decide to buy Dan Miller's book. www.48Days.com/Bruce
Monday Jan 22, 2024
Sun, Snow, and Solitude
Monday Jan 22, 2024
Monday Jan 22, 2024
Today’s episode is called Sun, Snow, and Solitude. Do you enjoy time alone? Do you meditate? Do you like spending time with people, getting out of the house, and being around others? Are you an introvert or an extrovert?
I value my time alone. I enjoy my meditation time every day. That gives me the solitude I crave.
I also enjoy the sunshine, and I’ve talked about that a number of times in my solo episodes. The sun feeds me. It gives me energy and helps give me a feeling of positivity. The sun is uplifting and can take me out of a funk.
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- Website: www.MindfulnessMode.com
Our Kitchen
Our kitchen has a large south-facing window, and if there’s any sunshine at all, the sun’s rays flood into this space. Sometimes, I sit there, soak up the sun, and meditate. The effect the sun has on my mood is powerful.
The Snow
Snow is another one of my favorite elements of nature. It makes the sun even brighter. With a fresh snowfall, the world looks incredibly bright and beautiful. You might remember me saying that I walk every day. Even though I enjoy the weather almost every day, when there is sunshine and a new snowfall, I feel like I’m on top of the world. There’s something special about that combination of being alone with my thoughts and walking in nature with snow and sunshine.
Cold
With snow comes the cold, which I also enjoy. It is refreshing to spend time outside when the temperature is below freezing. As long as I’m dressed warmly, I feel like the fresh, cold air clears my mind and helps me feel empowered.
I injured my foot recently and had to back off on my daily walks. I’ve been seeing a doctor, and my foot is almost back to normal. This injury made me realize how much I miss my walks when I cannot enjoy my daily outings. Thanks for listening to this episode entitled Sun, Snow, and Solitude.
Suggested Resources
- Book: The Surrender Experiment by Michael A. Singer
- Book: Letting Go by David R. Hawkins
- App: Insight Timer
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Sunshine and Happiness by Bruce L.
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Mindfulness, Quantum Physics and Healing With Dr. Anastasia Chopelas
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Thursday Jan 18, 2024
Deep, Confident Peace; Dr. Tara Perry
Thursday Jan 18, 2024
Thursday Jan 18, 2024
Dr. Tara Perry will help you achieve deep, confident peace. She is a Clinical Hypnotherapist and Doctor of Acupuncture and Chinese Medicine. She specializes in Core Trauma Transformation, helping people get to the root of their biggest block, connect to their authentic selves, and thrive in deep confident peace. For 25 years, Dr. Perry has successfully treated celebrities, Olympians, first responders, world record holders, doctors, scientists, teachers, parents, and children. She has been featured on Lifetime television, The Los Angeles Times, Fox Sports West, CosMed Magazine, and more. For 10 years, Dr. Perry taught at the #1 Acupuncture College in California. In 2000, she was chosen to be the first acupuncture teacher at the famous Arthur Ashe Center at UCLA. Dr. Perry hosts her own podcast called Next Level Healing.
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- Website: www.ConsultTara.com
- Podcast: Next Level Healing
Most Influential Person
- Byron Katie (Author)
Effect On Emotions
- I think if you're operating from unconsciousness, which is a lack of mindfulness, then you're just running on autopilot. And I think the thing that's causing people so many problems is being on that hamster wheel; not being able to see what's right in front of them.
- And that's why it's so helpful to work with somebody. I mean, yes, you can maybe figure this out all by yourself. And people do. But if you can work with somebody, boy that will sure speed up the process.
Thoughts On Breathing
- Wim Hof is a great resource for breathing. He has an 11-minute breathing exercise that he does on YouTube. He teaches people how to do cold therapy. His wife committed suicide, and he was desperately miserable.
- To save his own beingness, he turned to cold therapy [which is connected to deep breathing]. I encourage people to do that [Wim Hoff work], tune their minds out, and connect.
- One way to do that is to focus on the warmth between your palms and your thighs while you're in that freezing cold. I found that because I've been doing all this meditation and really lighting up the pineal gland, which is key. That's more of an advanced concept.
- I incorporate breathwork with my meditation because I find that it greatly deepens it. If you were to do the Wim Hof thing for 11 minutes and then go into your meditation, I think you would find that very deeply expanding.There are so many different ways to do it. You kind of have to mix and match what works best for you. But certainly Leland Holgate and Wim Hof would also be a great way to get started.
Bullying Story
- I think the bullies need help too. They're not going home at the end of the day feeling great because they beat up the little kid. In fact, when people have life reviews, they go back and experience all those blows that they inflicted on another person.
- Mark Gober does a beautiful job of writing in his book that the golden rule exists in every single religion on the face of the earth. Well, because that's because we are each other.
- So the way to happiness as Thich Nhat Hanh said, there is no road to happiness. Happiness is the road. The more we can open up our hearts and share it. So the bully is living in fear. He feels like he needs to crush others in order to feel good about himself. He's also a product of that whole system.
Suggested Resources
- Book: I Need Your Love, Is That True by Byron Katie
- Book: See Dr. Perry's Book List
- App: Wim Hof App
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Getting Centered and Wiping the Mind Clean with Greg Zuffelato
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Monday Jan 15, 2024
Rise Of The Reader; Nick Hutchison
Monday Jan 15, 2024
Monday Jan 15, 2024
Nick Hutchison is the author of Rise of the Reader and is the visionary force behind BookThinkers, a thriving 7-figure marketing agency. Nick works to connect authors and readers and, in only 7 years, has cultivated a platform reaching over 1,000,000 people monthly. He hosts a podcast called BookThinkers: Life-Changing Books, a top 2% global podcast featuring interviews with renowned authors like Grant Cardone and Lewis Howes. Nick's platform and services have empowered countless authors to reach millions of readers, driving substantial revenue growth. His services encompass video production, podcast booking, and social media brand building. Nick likes to ask the question, “Where would you be today if you had successfully implemented every book you've ever read?”
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- Website: www.NickHutch.com
Most Influential Person
- Tim Ferris (Author)
Effect On Emotions
- When I was younger, I was very emotionally reactive and that behavior continued into my late teens and early twenties. I would get angry, input would go into my brain, and I would react. I would have a default reaction and sometimes it would get me in trouble.
- It wasn't always so positive. But as I've continued to grow in my mindfulness practices and meditations, I've been able to increase the space between the input to my brain and my reaction. I can default to a place of logic.
- I can process before reacting. And so I'm a little bit less emotional than I was. I'm a little bit more logical today than I was back then as well. And mindfulness is the reason that that's happened.
Thoughts On Breathing
- I do practice the Wim Hof method breathing exercise every single day. I've heard people define meditation as the return to breath. So when everything's chaotic, just breathe in through your nose, out through your mouth. And I know that from a scientific perspective, if your exhale is longer than your inhale, you'll slow your heart rate down.
- And so I try to use those strategies sometimes. My average breath hold is usually in the two-minute range. I don't try to push myself too hard with it. I find that just the daily practice of doing Wim Hof breathing just helps me to stay grounded and to feel really good.
Bullying Story
- So, I'll give a 3rd party story. I interviewed an author today at my house. His name is Efren Delgado, former FBI special agent.
- Actually, he just wrote a book called The Opposite Is True. And his book kicks off with a story about being bullied. He was in 2nd grade, but he was the youngest of all 2nd graders in his class and he was pretty small. He got picked on a lot. And so he kicked off the book by telling a story where he's shoved to the ground, and he got really hurt.
- He looked up, and the bullies almost felt bad, like they were concerned that they had hurt him too much this time. He talks about how that was the first time he ever became aware of this question: Why do good people choose to do bad things? And, you know, sometimes you could say your purpose comes from your pain.
- So he got into law enforcement, national security, and FBI work so that he could protect people who were in a similar position of being bullied, whether it was from a terrorist perspective or anything below that. And so he talked a lot about mindfulness. He talked a lot about his ability to slow things down and operate from a place of logic instead of emotion.
- And I thought it was a really interesting story. That 1st time becoming aware and asking himself that question and not reacting with emotion, not emoting negativity, but slowing things down and operating from a place of logic instead.
Suggested Resources
- Book: Siddhartha, a Novel by Hermann Hesse
- Book: Life's Amazing Secrets: How To Find Balance and Purpose In Your Life by Gaur Gopal Das
- Book: The 4-Hour Work Week by Tim Ferris
- Book: Tools Of Titans by Tim Ferris
- App: The One-Sec App
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Thursday Jan 11, 2024
Creating Healthy, Happy Lives; Inesa Ponomariovaite
Thursday Jan 11, 2024
Thursday Jan 11, 2024
Inesa Ponomariovaite is dedicated to creating healthy, happy lives through her groundbreaking work in the hemp and CBD industry. She is the founder and CEO of Nesa's Hemp. She has developed the world’s first-ever full-spectrum CBDa oil, using a unique process that preserves all the healing compounds of the hemp plant. This process results in a product that offers optimal healing and the potential to restore the body to its natural state.
Embarking on a journey with hemp and CBD five years ago, Inesa's mission was fueled by her mother's devastating cancer diagnosis, given a mere six months to live. Undeterred and heartbroken, she traveled the world in search of natural solutions for her mother's health condition and discovered the miraculous properties of the hemp plant. Recognizing the lack of high-quality hemp products in the market, Inesa faced numerous challenges to create an effective alternative health solution for her mother and people worldwide.
Today, Nesa's Hemp is a certified highest-quality organic hemp product, representing Inesa's commitment to creating healthy, happy lives. Her unwavering dedication has not only resulted in her mother's triumphant victory over cancer but also ignited a mission to extend transformative impact to millions across the globe.
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- Website: www.NesasHemp.com
Most Influential Person
- God
Effect On Emotions
- I practice being mindful towards myself and knowing that I need to be here and that the world is counting on me. I think that helps me to control my emotions.
Thoughts On Breathing
- God developed us so beautifully. We have our own emergency systems, such as breath. You really don't even have to call 911. You just start breathing, and you will see what will happen to you. You will experience thousands of health benefits. I'm just impressed.
Bullying Story
- I have a lot of stories about bullying. When I came from Lithuania, I came from a background where I thought light didn't exist.
- I learned what's good and what's bad on this earth, and I just decided that I'm not going to have too much patience with people who physically harm us. They are not wishing anything well for us.
- I decided to stand up for all of us. That includes myself, my own family, and other people in this country or other countries.
- I probably can come across as if I'm bullying them. But I just don't have patience for lies and cheats. (Bruce's note: It is clear that Nesa is dedicated to creating healthy, happy lives everywhere she goes.)
Suggested Resources
- Book: The 5AM Club: Own Your Morning. Elevate Your Life by Robin Sharma
- App: N/A
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Monday Jan 08, 2024
Thursday Jan 04, 2024
Mindfulness In Motion With Qigong; Lee Holden
Thursday Jan 04, 2024
Thursday Jan 04, 2024
Lee Holden teaches mindfulness in motion with Qigong. He is the founder and CEO of Holden QiGong. Lee is a world-renowned leader who brought the ancient Chinese practice of Qigong to the modern world. He has been featured on 8 successful PBS shows with another 13 episodes under “Your Fountain Of Youth With Lee Holden”. The episodes were shot at a variety of scenic locations including Yosemite, Redwood National Park and Croatia. Through online and in-person courses, Lee Holden teaches individuals how to improve their life force energy. He also helps athletes by activating dormant energy through a series of breathing and meditative exercises. Lee has helped over 10,000 students break through barriers to uncover healing from injury or disease as well as maximizing energy levels and decreasing signs of aging.
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Contact Info
- Website: www.holdenqigong.com
- Youtube: @HoldenQigong
Most Influential Person
- Mantak Chia (a Taoist Master; Mantak Chia is the creator of the Healing Tao, Tao Yoga, Universal Healing Tao System, and Tao Garden Health Spa & Resort)
Effect On Emotions
- Oh, mindfulness gets me out of my head so that I don't stack emotions on top of emotions on top of emotions. I can feel the emotion. I can drop into the moment.
- And then what I do is do something called transforming negative emotions. Neutralizing them into being centered in the moment
Thoughts On Breathing
- Breath is life. I mean, breath is chi. When you take a deep breath. You are bringing energy into your body and that was what sustains and keeps you alive.
- You breathe about 20, 000 times a day, but not all of those breaths are equal. So if you're breathing shallow, you're sending a message to your nervous system; I'm stressed out.
- If you breathe deep and full, you're sending a message to your nervous system; I'm relaxed. So slow, deep breathing and being attentive to your breath is going to bring you into the moment. It's going to clear stress out of your nervous system and you're going to be more grounded and balanced.
Bullying Story
- Raising four daughters, aged 3 to 15, exposes me to diverse forms of bullying. It goes beyond mere exclusion or name-calling; it involves clashes of opinions. When one of my older girls faced criticism over her political stance, I emphasized empathy and a broader outlook. We actively stepped into each other's perspectives, cultivating empathy and understanding.
- The result? They mediated between friends with differing views, diffusing tensions within days. Bullying's complexity led me to advocate mindful practices like Qigong, clarifying the line between genuine threats and hurtful situations. These practices empower us to seek support confidently.
- Strengthened internally, asking for help becomes more accessible, enabling us to choose healthier social circles. Grounded in ourselves, solutions emerge, countering the usual sense of powerlessness in such situations.
Suggested Resources
- Book: Breath: the New Science of a Lost Art by James Nestor
- Book: The Power of Slow by Lee Holden (Expected to publish early 2025)
- App: YMAA App (I have some programs on that app)
- App: Insight Timer
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Are you experiencing anxiety & stress? I’m Bruce Langford, a practicing coach and hypnotist helping fast-track people just like you to shed their inner bully and move forward with confidence. Book a Free Coaching Session to get you on the road to a more satisfying life, feeling grounded and focused. Send me an email at bruce@mindfulnessmode.com with ‘I Am Determined' in the subject line. We'll schedule a call to discuss how you can move forward to a better life |
Monday Jan 01, 2024
Lighten Your Day; Professor Pete Alexander
Monday Jan 01, 2024
Monday Jan 01, 2024
Professor Pete Alexander knows how to help you lighten your day. He is an author, TEDx speaker, adjunct college professor, certified Laughter Yoga leader, and improv comedy cast member. He is also the President of the greatest interior landscaping company in the San Francisco Bay Area – Office Plants by Everything Grows. Professor Pete helps inspire his students to develop and apply key concepts of marketing specifically to their area of interest. He supports his community by helping them laugh more and stress less. Professor Pete has had significant training in neurolinguistic programming (NLP). His most recent book is called, LIGHTEN Your Day: Fast, Easy, and Effective Stress Relief For When Sh&t Happens.
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Contact Info
- Website: wwwPeteAlexander.com
- Book: LIGHTEN Your Day: Fast, Easy, and Effective Stress Relief For When Sh&t Happens by Professor Pete Alexander
Most Influential Person
- A professor I had back when I was getting my bachelor's degree
Effect On Emotions
- I used to react immediately and usually in a negative way. And so mindfulness now for me is going back to being in the present.
- And there's a note on my monitor that basically reminds me, do not believe your thoughts because if we get wrapped up in all of our emotions, we potentially are going to say the wrong thing.
- And so being mindful and being present helps. And sometimes we say the words wrong. We can't get them back. It's too late.
Thoughts On Breathing
- I like to call it the box method. So if we think about a square, what to do for deep breathing, We can do deep breathing where you breathe all the way in and you make sure that if you can breathe out through your mouth. That's always the most beneficial way to breathe.
- With The Box Method, count to at least four or five when you breathe in. Then count to four or five when you breathe out. Do it for only two times each, and you will automatically start getting calmer.
- A visualization exercise can help you do a deep breath. Breathe in and then do a slow breath out. Go in your mind to a place where you like to relax. You automatically start breathing slower that way. You are most likely going to be doing it in about four seconds.
So, think about it as a box.
Bullying Story
- My story about bullying and how mindfulness would have made a difference, highlights how I dealt with a challenging coworker using the STOP method. STOP is an acronym. Stop, Take yourself away, Observe your feelings, Proceed. In a toxic open office, this person's behavior grated on me, pushing my stress levels through the roof.
- When he criticized someone on my team, blaming me for their mistake, I felt ready to explode.
- Remembering the STOP method, I walked away, took a breather, and analyzed my emotions.
- Stepping back helped me avoid a pointless confrontation and present a composed response later.
- It's crucial not to react impulsively in such situations; this method isn't just for work, it's a valuable tool for handling any confrontational person, even in personal relationships.
Suggested Resources
- Book: LIGHTEN Your Day: Fast, Easy, and Effective Stress Relief For When Sh&t Happens by Professor Pete Alexander
- Book: The SPEED of Trust: The One Thing That Changes Everything by Stephen M .R. Covey
- App: Duolingo App to learn a language
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Are you experiencing anxiety & stress? I’m Bruce Langford, a practicing coach and hypnotist helping fast-track people just like you to shed their inner bully and move forward with confidence. Book a Free Coaching Session to get you on the road to a more satisfying life, feeling grounded and focused. Send me an email at bruce@mindfulnessmode.com with ‘I Am Determined' in the subject line. We'll schedule a call to discuss how you can move forward to a better life |